There will always be people that judge. Sometimes I even feel like we need permission to do something that is completely up to us anyway. Do what you want to do and dont feel you need to justify your decision. Good luck.
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14-04-2015 11:46 #21Senior Member
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14-04-2015 11:54 #22
you poor thing I'm sorry that happened to you.
I had a severe 4th degree tear, however I have healed 100% and have no problems now. I am due this September and also having an elective C-section, this has been recommended to me by all the midwives I've seen and 3 doctors. I won't lie and say at first I had a small desire to go natural, but after hearing the risks of tearing again over such extensive scar tissue that desire is gone now. You do what's best for you! Stuff anyone else that says otherwise.
14-04-2015 12:24 #23
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14-04-2015 12:24 #24
My goodness you poor thing! What a traumatic birth experience! It's totally fine to do whatever you feel is right for you & don't let anyone else tell you otherwise...your body, your choice. I'd defiantly be going for a C-section if I'd had the same or similar problems that you had with birthing. I really hope that you get things sorted & that things improve for you. I had an emergency CS with my first & am due to have a planned CS with my 2nd in 8 days time. Good luck to you💗
14-04-2015 12:57 #25
14-04-2015 13:59 #26
GET A C-SECTION!!
I hope that didn't come across as rude but if you're looking for permission to do it then I wholeheartedly give you that permission. My first birth ended up in a emergency c-section and when we have a second I will absolutely be having an elective. There are no medals for giving birth naturally so do what you feel most comfortable with. The people telling you to birth naturally don't have to live with the consequences of that and aren't the ones pushing a baby through their vagin.as. When it's their body they can make that choice.
14-04-2015 14:05 #27
OP what you've been through sounds terrible. I hope you're getting some treatment for that!! Sounds like you need some further repair!! I absolutely would do what feeds right for you. So if that's a c section, go for it. It's certainly not easy, can have its own complications, but certainly doesn't sound advisable to have a vaginal birth in your situation.
14-04-2015 21:03 #28
14-04-2015 21:33 #29
Of course you can have a c section. Regardless of how your first birth went, it's your body and your choice.
It's also fine not to discuss your birth plans with anyone. Just don't enter into any discussion about it. Ime, if you say nothing about your birth plans, no one asks or comments. If you say you're planning a c sec, someone will have a horror story and / or an opinion. If you say you're planning on a vaginal birth, someone will have an equally bad horror story and an opinion on what you should do. Just don't enter into any discussions about it and back yourself.
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15-04-2015 12:55 #30
If you feel a c section is the right choice for you go for it!!! You know your body better than anyone. If natural scares you too much, the don't do it.
I've researched the hell out of different natural birthing methods and I thought I would give water birth a go (not pregnant and never given birth so my word probably doesn't mean much hah), but I honestly think c section is the right choice for me. My frame is tiny and I really believe I would probably tear horribly and do some serious damage.
Don't do anything that doesn't feel right for you. And screw anyone who makes you feel bad. Your body, your choice!!
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