So a girl I work with asked me to be her bridesmaid and I really don't feel comfortable with it.
We haven't socialised outside of work...unless u count the work Xmas party. I've met her fiancé twice when he's meet her after work. I haven't met any of her family or other friends.
She wrote me a note to ask me and I said yes but the closer it gets the less comfortable I get with it. She even asked my DD to be a flower girl without asking me. At first it was nice to be asked but now that its all happening its just making me feel crap. I don't know wat to do.
I've already said yes.
She has already said my whole family is coming too. My kids are young, DH works away and isn't going to want to go.
Its going to break her heart if I tell her I don't want do it. She doesn't have any other friends (as far as I know) and her other two bridesmaids are her 14 yo sister and her older sister who lives in London and might not be able to come.
What do I do...Help!!!
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09-04-2015 20:47 #1
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Work friend asked me to be her bridesmaid.
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09-04-2015 20:52 #2
I'd say go with it
If you being uncomfortable for one day makes her day memorable then I think it's worth it
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09-04-2015 20:57 #3
Yeah I think you should just go with it. It does seem a bit strange given that you don't hang out outside of work but she obviously values your friendship so there's no harm in being part of her wedding day if it makes her happy.
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You can't back out now you have said yes, that would be mean.
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09-04-2015 21:00 #5
It might be strange but if she has no friend and has chosen you she must think a lot of you and want you to be her friend.
Do it, even though it is weird to you, and just remember you're contributing to making that day the best day of her life.
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09-04-2015 21:02 #6
Since you have already said yes I think you should definitely follow through.
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09-04-2015 21:10 #7
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Yep, I'm with them ^^ you've already agreed to the role and you need to follow through. Just think that you're making her very happy and who knows, you might be surprised at how well it all goes.
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I think it is too late to back out now. It is one of the most important and special day of her life.
Maybe explain to her you would prefer kids don't attend due to their young age and fact hubby can't attend due to working away you don't want to be running after kids all day. Be firm even if she says it will be ok that way you take some of the control back.
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09-04-2015 21:14 #9
I agree with the others. You stated that she is a work friend, but a friend no less. Unless she is going to be putting you in a massive financial hole, it sounds like the one day of inconvenience to you will bring a lot of happiness on a special day for her.
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09-04-2015 21:23 #10
It does seem a little strange and even awkward from your perspective. I feel a little sorry for her tbh.
I think you need to honour your commitment, otherwise there is a real chance of sullying her day irreparably.
It's actually a huge compliment to be asked :-)
Is she expecting you to organise a hens night?
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