So this is the third time I have ever let my three year old be away from me overnight... Scary but I want him to have a relationship with his grandmother. My mum remarried 4 years ago and has a new husband. He has his own children and grandchildren that I don't know and have never met.
Mum and her husband picked my son up and I assumed he was going back to her town an hour and a half away and staying two night with her me picking him up Friday.
I get a text at 5:30 in the afternoon to say they have gone to his kids house and they have decided to stay the night there. I don't know these people his children the house or visit there! I am furious as my child is 3 not 10. What would you have done?
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08-04-2015 17:11 #1
Pushing the boundaries again...
08-04-2015 17:35 #2
I would be furious and very tempted to go and pick my child up. I guess it depends on how much you trust your mother's judgement.
08-04-2015 17:49 #3Senior Member
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I'd be ****ed off too and I'd be telling them in no uncertain terms that they were to either take him home or let me know the address so I could go get him. No way would I be ok with my toddler sleeping over at a stranger's house.
08-04-2015 17:59 #4
08-04-2015 18:03 #5
I give her an inch and she takes a mile. It could all been avoided with a phone call and some honesty. Fair enough go play for the day but sleeping over at a strangers place with my 3 year old and just casually telling me by text message that's what was happening.
08-04-2015 18:52 #6
I'm fairly overprotective with my DS.
However, for me I tend towards trusting people until they give me a reason not to. I trust my mum's judgement so wouldn't be too bothered by the scenario you describe.
But it sounds like there is a lot of history there with your mum. I'm glad she responded to you and she changed her plans once you expressed your dissatisfaction. Sounds like it might be worth setting strict ground rules with her if she's likely to do something like this again?
08-04-2015 19:04 #7
08-04-2015 20:26 #8Senior Member
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I would trust my mum too, but part of the reason why I trust her is because she would ask first before doing something like this. And I think if I had been asked, had been given a proper explanation of who these people are, what the sleeping arrangements would be etc, I'd probably be inclined to say yes. Getting a random text would put me off.
08-04-2015 20:31 #9
My mum.took my toddler to party once where I didn't know the people and found out after woods. I lost it big time. It has never happened again. I even though we are close I don't trust her judgement of other people.
08-04-2015 20:35 #10
I'm opposite. Whatever my mum does with kids in her time is upto her. Yes you don't know those people but your mum is there so I'm assuming they would be safe? If not why let them be in her care.
I don't let my mum have the kids and go your not allowed to do this and that. She's free to be flexible etc I hope you rang her and sorted it out x
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