You receive a text from a friend to invite you over for diner. Is it ok to ask whether you can bring an extra guest? It is an adult that is currently living at your place. Not friend with people hosting but they have met him before.
I should add that the same question had already been asked for a prior diner at same friends' place and they declined as they were at max catering capacity.
ETA It's not a family friend more like a house-share mate, he is visiting Australia for 3 months and renting a bedroom.
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05-04-2015 13:06 #1
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05-04-2015 13:08 #2
It's polite to ask, but I would ask the host before suggesting to the extra guest so that they aren't disappointed if they can't come.
05-04-2015 13:12 #3
It's okay to ask, though if they say no I would take it as a sign not to ask them again.
Some people just aren't comfortable having an extra person over that they don't know well.
If you do bring your extra guest, perhaps an offering of a bottle of wine from the guest would be a nice gesture?
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05-04-2015 13:17 #4Senior Member
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No I wouldn't, I'm not sure if it's entirely polite. If I was the host I would feel put on the spot and pressured to then say yes.
Depends on who it is too. If this is a random houseguest, I wouldn't ask. If it's a family member from overseas that you are supposed to be hosting and showing a good time, then I would either ask, or I would entirely decline the dinner offer and do something else with the house guest for dinner.
05-04-2015 13:23 #5
It's not a family friend more like a house-share mate, he is visiting Australia for 3 months and renting a bedroom.
05-04-2015 14:07 #6
From your ... "I should add that the same question had already been asked for a prior diner at same friends' place and they declined as they were at max catering capacity." ... I take it that those same hosts have invited you to dinner before while your house-mate has been here?
If that's the case, and they know he is here (and they have met him) but not invited him, that pretty clearly indicates to me they don't want him to come. I wouldn't even ask them. If you don't want to leave the house-mate alone, don't go to dinner.
05-04-2015 14:12 #7
If I was the host, I would say no, and be a bit put off that you felt ok to ask if a housemate could come to my house... unless I regularly went to yours and spent time with him.
05-04-2015 14:31 #8
Id not ask if you had previously and they declined with the excuse they were already at maximum catering numbers.
Id take that as a hint they dont want the house guest coming
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05-04-2015 15:03 #9
I would ask coz i would more than likely say yes pending on how many were already attending and how much was cooked. I have people invite others over often(yesterday a friend invited her sister/nephew and her boyfriend over without me knowing. Lucky they didnt come as i didnt plan on heaps of people nor did i plan easter gifts for everyone)
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05-04-2015 15:34 #10
I would ask, there is no harm in asking. I don't think it's rude or impolite to ask at all, it certainly would not offend me. they are not comfortable with it I'm sure they will let you know.
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