For those who have experiences serious marriage issues, what was it that saved your marriage?
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03-04-2015 17:09 #1
What saved your marriage?
03-04-2015 17:14 #2
I have no advice for you as mine failed. But I just wanted to send you lots of hugs as I know how awful it is to have issues in your marriage.
03-04-2015 17:21 #3
So far..... realising where we went wrong, acknowledging and admitting our mistakes and making an effort to change, seeking counselling as individuals and as a couple, making time for US even if its a candle lit picnic on the lounge room floor after kids go to bed, also making time for ourselves as individuals and having our own time and space. Our marriage was over, until we started doing these things. Since then, we have rediscovered the good things and learning from our mistakes. If you asked me 3 weeks ago if we could save our marriage, i would have laughed. But now.... we are giving it everything we have because we are worth fighting for.
Having said that, we both know that if things do go downhill again, thats it. This is our absolute last effort to save our marriage.
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03-04-2015 17:58 #4
So far, nothing... still going though.
03-04-2015 18:42 #5
We are still very very rocky. Being completely honest with each other about our feelings, our wants and needs was the first step. We hit rock bottom we could only work on it or separate.
My main reason for staying was and is our kids. DH is a great father and treats me well so I try to think about that during the tough times.
03-04-2015 18:53 #6
Moving away from smothering IL's so we could have some breathing space. Best decision we have ever made as a couple
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03-04-2015 19:31 #7
03-04-2015 19:48 #8Senior Member
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Counselling as s cpl and individually and communicating when things get tough.
03-04-2015 20:05 #9
Going to counseling by myself and learning to love me again and finding other ways to fill the emptiness in my life as I wont get it from dh
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03-04-2015 20:05 #10
We've been through a few rough patches. What worked was communication and most importantly DH taking ownership for crappy behaviour. Not only did it win my respect, but the old Dr Phil cliche is true in this case - you can't change what you don't acknowledge. Nothing enrages me more than someone that can't own sh*tty behaviour.
I think another key thing is that I refuse to settle for being treated badly.
I wanted to add that relationships can recover from difficult times. It's been about 7 years since the last bad patch, but our marriage has never been stronger and I love him more than I ever did. He's a far better husband and man now than he ever was.
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