(I wanted to get her boyfriend and bash his skull against the gutter but that's a whole different thread!!)
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20-03-2015 20:44 #11
20-03-2015 20:45 #12
20-03-2015 20:57 #13
Just remember, you're not getting them in trouble with authorities or risking them losing their children, the perpetrator is the one causing this. You are doing what you can to protect the children.
20-03-2015 21:08 #14
Hi OP, what a tough situation for you to be caught in the middle of.
I would call Child Safety & let them know everything. By law they aren't allowed to pass on who provided the information to them, they just investigate & look into the matter & take action if needed. At least this way you can know that you've bought it to someone's attention. Even write down everything (or make a list) so when they ask you, you can tell them everything. There are also Afterhours number you can call too. They may be able to assist with support or assistance to help the family.
Next time an incident happens, definitely call the Police & report it. If there is yelling etc, they will be able to hear this in the background of the call. Tell them you want to remain anonymous (or contact by phone only) if you want so you stay out of it. At least this way, you've done everything you can if anything ever happened.
20-03-2015 21:53 #15
I agree that it would be best to take action with the police or DCP. You're obliviously a concern person who cares. Please don't be made to feel guilty by others, I think the subject just makes people feel very passionately.
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20-03-2015 22:58 #16
Please, please make a call.
I absolutely understand that you're concerned for the mother - i do. The kids need to come first though. I work with children who've been removed from their parents' care, and authorities are generally very reluctant to remove children unless they deem it absolutely necessary. Noone's going to go in, guns blazing, and take the kids. They err on the side of caution, and attempt to give parents opportunity after opportunity. I'm aware that in a situation of DV it's not that simple, but here's the thing...children who've suffered abuse and neglect suffer the consequences for the rest of their lives. Even when authorities are aware of extremely serious and ongoing abuse/neglect, kids often remain in those situations for years on end in order to give the parents the benefit of the doubt, or to attempt to pursue all avenues for improvement. Meanwhile, the kids suffer. Honestly, I don't know how to describe the outcomes for these kids who've suffered for years on end - it's truly awful, and completely unforgivable.
Anyway, my point is that reports from one neighbour are NOT going to see the kids taken away. They'll be anonymous, and will only bring the family into the radar of the authorities if they're not already on it. They'll likely do a welfare check, keep an eye on it, and leave it at that. Nowhere near enough in my view, but so so important for trying to keep the kids safe.
21-03-2015 09:02 #17
Ok done. I wrote a report to child safety in our area. Hopefully something of action happens and they can help these poor children.
21-03-2015 09:13 #18
I just want to say I understand that you were taking pause. Once I made a report and my house was broken into and trashed. That won't happen to you, it was a completely different context.
Just saying you want it to be anonymous isn't a guarantee that your neighbours won't assume it's you. So I admire you for being brave and for doing the right thing for those poor, poor children.
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13-05-2015 11:55 #19
Update- I reported the incidents to child safety. They replied with 'thanks but we can't help until there has been more than three reports or physical brushing /marks evident.' Wtf?!?
Such a let down.
To add more BS to the situation - the parents got into it pretty bad yesterday and both the kids were screaming in terror. I called 000 and waited all afternoon and evening for an officer to come and investigate and help.
Do you think they even showed up??
What is wrong with this system?
13-05-2015 13:11 #20
Report every incident. Including the one yesterday. That way they'll get their three reports and hopefully pay a visit
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