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    Default Grrrr....annoying teacher

    Ds aged 7.5 is a sensitive boy but not overly sensitive. The deputy head seems to think it's ok to comment negatively on his hairstyles (he chooses his own haircuts which I think are pretty funky and there is no school rule on haircuts) and teases him about his surname which is a German sounding one so she makes it sound like Schultz out of Hogan's Heroes. He says she laughs when she does it. He has complained before but said 'I cant say anything mum because you have to respect teachers'. I have told him 'you don't respect her because she's a teacher. You respect her as fellow human being'. I don't feel she is respecting him in fact she's using her position of power to enable herself to bully him. I know what i'm going to do but what would you do?

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    I would speak to the teacher first and tell her your son feel uncomfortable by what she is doing. Hopefully, it stops with her but if it didn't I would speak to the principal. My maiden name was German and was always picked on throughout school 😒 poor little guy.

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    Complain to the education department. She is clearly bullying your DS. That sort of behaviour would not be accepted from the students so what makes her think it's okay for her to carry on in such a manner?

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    I think going to the education department would be a better last resort. I know that sometimes I misread my 'rapport' with students - not that I'm intentionally rude to them at all. Like I might say something and think later 'oh I hope they knew I was joking'. Then I stew on it and don't sleep til I talk to them and clear it up!

    So as a teacher I would appreciate being gently told that the child didn't really like it, and then I would stop. I wouldn't immediately jump to them being rude or negative - just missing the mark. We are all human and it's easy to do.

    If the teacher is then rude/defensive or doesn't stop then it would be cause for taking it further.

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    I would talk to her and just point out that your DS finds her joking about his surname and hairstyles a bit uncomfortable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    I think going to the education department would be a better last resort. I know that sometimes I misread my 'rapport' with students - not that I'm intentionally rude to them at all. Like I might say something and think later 'oh I hope they knew I was joking'. Then I stew on it and don't sleep til I talk to them and clear it up!

    So as a teacher I would appreciate being gently told that the child didn't really like it, and then I would stop. I wouldn't immediately jump to them being rude or negative - just missing the mark. We are all human and it's easy to do.

    If the teacher is then rude/defensive or doesn't stop then it would be cause for taking it further.
    This. Speak to the teacher first and explain how you feel. This also gives her a chance to explain. Most things can be overcome through non-confrontational discussion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    I think going to the education department would be a better last resort. I know that sometimes I misread my 'rapport' with students - not that I'm intentionally rude to them at all. Like I might say something and think later 'oh I hope they knew I was joking'. Then I stew on it and don't sleep til I talk to them and clear it up!

    So as a teacher I would appreciate being gently told that the child didn't really like it, and then I would stop. I wouldn't immediately jump to them being rude or negative - just missing the mark. We are all human and it's easy to do.

    If the teacher is then rude/defensive or doesn't stop then it would be cause for taking it further.
    Yep exactly this.
    @harvs the wonders of technology.. When I worry about that I email my student! !! And clear it up. Lol

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    I would email the teacher tonight. When you can follow up in person.
    If she continues or reacts badly than go the principal and the board of directors(if it a private school). If you still don't get action than go to the dept of education.

    This is no way acceptable. The best way is to email to her first. That way you have a record of the communication

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    Default Grrrr....annoying teacher

    that's very poor form on behalf of the teacher. I would raise it with her first (please do so calmly, even though you may feel like yelling at her - being a teacher myself, I know I am more likely to be able to listen when I'm not feeling attacked iykwim) If nothing changes, I would raise it with the principal. It's amazing how much sarcasm presents itself in our schools these days, and some people just don't see what damage it is doing, especially when it's seen as a joke by the person speaking it...

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    My first action is going to be to talk to her and let her know that her comments hurt ds. She's not the most approachable person and doesn't accept feedback well. I know 2 other mums who have told her not to speak to their children unless they are present as their children find her intimidating


 

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