After reading the other post got me thinking along with what was mentioned. ..
After being a SAHM for many years what now ...
My youngest starts BIG school next year what do I do ....
I have no experience no so called career to walk back into.
What now ...I have to find me ...who ever that is ...
What do those full time parents do now
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12-03-2015 20:52 #1
Spin off ....what now....
12-03-2015 21:31 #2
Have you ever felt a need to follow a particular career path? Want to study and get a degree?
I have 3 in school and the 4th will start preschool next year. TBH I don't think I'll ever go back to work. I came out of a government job and I just can't see myself doing that again. I thought about studying teaching or nursing but once again I don't know if I would really want to do that so decided against it. So for now I'm going to enjoy staying at home!
12-03-2015 21:45 #3
My youngest started preschool this year, so I'm studying now so I can hopefully find a job next year.
13-03-2015 09:37 #4
I have my youngest who goes to prep next year in daycare 2 days a week and on those days he is there and the two oldest are in school I do things for myself like eat out, watch movies, go to the beach, art gallery. Just basically anything I want. I lived out of home for a year when I fell pregnant with DD and basically had the most horrendous hard time raising my children for the first several years. They had lots of medical issues and being close in age just a handful for a youngest child themselves who never knew what the heck you do with babies and children.
I have a lot of childless friends my age who would get super peeved seeing me post I was at the beach or having lunch this past year like I live some life of luxury and it's not fair while they are in a full time job and you know that old lazy SAHM stereotype. What those people fail to realise was all those accumulative weekends they were out partying, overseas holidays by themselves I was actually having a child coming out of me, attached to me, sleeping with me, defecting and vomitting on me, not listening to me… Yeah I was raising kids 24 hours a day basically and not just 1 but 3 and they get annoyed after almost a decade of being pregnant and looking after kids I want to have a Mum "Gap year" so to speak?
So if you ask me I think I needed that to discover who I was outside of "Mum" and because I never had a chance really to be an adult alone I didn't know. You will get judged as lazy for doing it but it has been the thing that has given me the most positive clarity as to what direction I want my life to go in. So take some time to do things for yourself, get to know yourself and understand what it is you actually want for yourself not your family before diving into a career.
13-03-2015 09:41 #5
Once my youngest is in school I will be going to Uni to get a degree. I don't want to start now because I just don't have the time! I also have no interest in doing a check out chick type job. Not that there is anything wrong with that but I did it for too many years before babies and hated retail!!! But sadly that's the only experience I have.
13-03-2015 10:11 #6
Previous to having children I worked in hospitality (in pubs/bistro) and I didn't want to go back to that, so I enrolled at Uni in 2013 to start studying so I didn't end up faced with that 'OMG WHAT AM I GOING TO DO NOW!?' type scenario once all my children are in school.
I've now done 1 semester of foundation units, 2 part-time semesters for my chosen degree and 1 full time semester. So I've just finished my first year, and am now into my second year, full-time. I have one more year full-time to go and I will graduate with a bachelor degree, then I'm planning to to do a post-grad Masters straight after, then by the time all 4 of my children are in full-time school, I will be fully qualified in the field I want to work in, and can start applying for jobs. So after this year, I will have 3 more years of study to do.
I didn't want to leave studying until after the children were in school, because that would have meant at least another 5 years out of work, and given that I will have already clocked up about 12 years as a SAHM, I didn't want to add any extra time on to that. Studying full-time whilst being a SAHM to 4 children (I study by distance except for one unit), isn't easy, it's crazy, hectic, stressful and just but I do it, because it means that I will have a career to step into as soon as #4 is in grade 1 - his second year of full-time school.
13-03-2015 11:41 #7
I'm subbing, because I'm in the exact same position!
I worked retail management prior to having children. I'm now a single mum and I cannot return to retail as I have no child care on late nights and weekends when I would be required to work.
I'm planning to study something but I have no idea what!!!
13-03-2015 12:04 #8Senior Member
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My sister is currently in this position and she is finding it really difficult to get work without recent experience. She has just started studying again and is hoping to get a foot in the door through qualifications rather than experience. It's a tough road to go down. I'm extremely concerned about this and I think it will weigh greatly on my choice to be a stay at home mum in the future.
13-03-2015 12:57 #9
Short spurts of voluntary work in areas of interest can help. That's what my students do until they find something they want to study. What interests you op?
13-03-2015 13:02 #10
This is probably one of my BIGGEST fears/ cause for anxiety.
I have learning difficulties so going to study is a waste of time and money
Im really looking forward to like what trustychords is experiencing. Discovering who i am! Living in the world!!! Maybe then it will come to me...
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