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04-06-2015 11:32 #21
04-06-2015 11:33 #22
04-06-2015 11:42 #23
Could there be more to this than she's telling you?
04-06-2015 11:58 #24
04-06-2015 12:39 #25
Could it just be plain old refusal?
Plenty of kids go through it in relation to school, food, etc.
It just seems more... daunting? (I don't know if that's the right word) when it involves visitation.
If she really does like spending time with her dad, maybe have a chat to her about how this is the only way she will see him? That if she doesn't go to his place for X time, then she won't see him. If you can get your ex on board to try it (do a 'lead-up' for 3 weeks about how it is dad's turn on X day, talk about it regularly, etc. If she refuses, even once, dad doesn't turn up.).... just to see if she 'gets it'. IYKWIM?
We did this with DSS when he was refusing to transition (from mums to ours, ours to mums, school, etc) and he learned after a few months that he was the one losing out.
ETA: granted it could take longer in your situation, as at the time we saw the kids every week.
04-06-2015 12:47 #26Senior Member
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My DD is exactly the same, as I posted when you first started this thread.
She has since been diagnosed with anxiety. It mostly centres around her dad. I am hoping that some of the strategies she is/will be taught will help her to deal with going (even though I do admit she has a cr@p time there and that will never change).
Have you thought about this being a possibility with your DD?
04-06-2015 12:55 #27
Her teacher has also noticed that coming up to a weekend she is meant to be going to her dads theres a shift in her behaviour at school to anxious/emotional traits.
Ive been speaking to the principal this week and submitting forms for her to have some sessions with the school councillor.
Its so hard cause i know she likes to see him she just doesnt like going that far away anymore - i think she is realising how far it actually is these days.
She expresses that she just want to be at home to play with her things & have play dates with her friends etc instead of spending her w'nd visiting her dad
04-08-2015 15:59 #28
Haven't read other replies..
Maybe try once a month.
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