im pregnant with my third - unplanned lol. My first two were only 17 months apart, and I genuinely struggled - two lots of nappies, prams, feeding, it just was too hard and really put a strain on my marriage at the time, which never recovered. Now Im in a new relationship there will be a 5 year gap between my youngest and this new child, and im relieved. both my 2 kids can talk, go to the toilet themselves, eat and drink themselves and they go to school/kindy which means I will be able to give the new bub valuable one on one time during the day while they arent home and im not going broke buying nappies etc. I know each situation is different, and if you have plenty of support around you and you arent isolated and you have an easy bub, then yay Good luck with your choice
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15-05-2015 06:57 #91Junior Member
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26-05-2015 03:03 #92Junior Member
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I agree with you... That's a pretty good answer...
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09-06-2015 13:34 #94
I had a really weird dream last night that I realised I was pregnant at 34 weeks! I was madly trying to call my OB but kept dialing the wrong number. I was freaking out and panicking about having another baby!! In the dream I had a decent sized baby bump so don't know how I could have missed it lol!
It has been a really hard week with 10mo DS being unwell and waking a lot at night so maybe it was my brain telling me I don't have the stamina for another one!!
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12-06-2015 21:38 #95
Cue I just wanted to jump in here. As someone who finished a 6 year journey with 4 in the freezer it can be hard to recognise when to stop. This week my baby would have been due. I honestly cannot even think how it would have fit in. The ship has sailed. My dream that I fraught so hard for was no longer what I wanted anymore. I knew I needed to stop and I thought having another baby was the only way I could stop. I was wrong. My life was complete our family was complete and I needed permission to stop. If you are happy and really feel done then you are done. It's ok to stop. It's ok not to put the embryo back. It's ok to be happy with what you have.
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12-06-2015 23:05 #97
I'm in a similar position @Cue we have DS (2y 4months) & DD (8months)... DS was IVF & DD a natural surprise, plus 4 embies frozen... There is a 19 month gap between our 2, which to be honest I have found hard, I feel like DS is still so young & still so dependent on me, my DH works FIFO so is away every second week so it's alot of hard work... But I feel like we've come out the other side, DD is eating well, stilling & almost crawling (she has DDH so a little behind), so with this in mind I keep telling myself if we have a 3rd we will wait till DD is almost 2, make sure she is toilet trained & a bit more independent than DS was, at the moment I am still helping him with meals etc... So although 3 will be a challenge it will start to get easier at the 6 month make so all I have to do is make it thru the first 6 months!!
Honestly I don't feel I'm done, when I hear others saying they are pregnant I'm a little envious... I don't feel like our family is complete... DH is on the fence... I'll give it 6 months so start of 2016 & then make a decision/talk to DH seriously about it.
13-06-2015 06:20 #98
3rd? Is it a bad idea?
I haven't read the replies but if I had 1 left I would chance it and let fate decide. Over wise you'll spend your whole life wondering what if
13-06-2015 06:30 #99
3rd? Is it a bad idea?
Haven't read the other responses but i would base our decision on how many children we really wanted. It's a life long permanent decision if it worked. We have always hoped for two and going through IVF was a struggle so if I thought 3 kids would be a struggle I wouldn't transfer it and be happy with our miracles. If you wanted 3 kids then I would take the chance.
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16-08-2015 15:57 #100
Ok, so a bit of an update. DS recently turned 1 so I've been thinking about this again. Having just gone through a rough bout of rotavirus, with DS having to be hospitalized for IV fluids, I was leaning towards "hell no!!! I can't do this!!!". But now that we're all feeling better (DD and I got it too but DS got the worst of it) I am back to "my kids are amazing, one more might be nice...".
So the update is that I'm still freakin' confused and have no idea what to do. I think DH and I will need to make a decision soon, I don't like the indecision and let's face it, I'm not getting any younger...
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