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16-02-2015 10:17 #21Senior Member
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16-02-2015 10:32 #22
I receive CS for DD1. I get $120 a week for her and thats it no extras for activities or school fees.
All the stuff that doesnt fit into that $120 a week DH & i pay for. For example school is $46pw fees, dancing $70 pw - obviously we still have to clothe her, feed her, put a roof over her head, transport, health care and thats not really delving into it very deep.
X offered years ago to pay for her swimming lessons, i gratefully accepted until i found out he meant he would pay for swimming but minus the amount off the CS he pays weekly - not really helpful at all.
In your position id be pushing for something legal to be drawn up before you guys are broke. You should not be paying for anything at her house and the CS should be being used for school associated costs. The only extra i see as fair is half of the extra activities but id be capping it to 2/3 activities each
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16-02-2015 10:41 #23Senior Member
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I get CS and it just goes into the general pool of money I use to house/feed/educate my child. It doesn't cover all her costs but helps a lot.
If if she was missing the lessons as you describe I would certainly cancel them. I can't imagine why a parent would pay that much if they didnt make it a priority to go.
16-02-2015 10:46 #24Senior Member
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I can't answer the first question. But if she loves music that much is there any way you guys could take her when you have her? Or are there music classes offered through school? If not, then I think it is okay to not pay for the music lessons.
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I don't receive child support and am not in a position to claim it so I am speaking in a purely non-biased stand point.
I would think "fair" would be basic costs of child. This would include a nominal amount for living expenses inlcuding electricity, rent/mortgage, transportation, groceries. Again nominal due to someone could live the high life and call it "basic costs".
All other costs I would think would be made on a private arrangement.
In regards to your circumstance, I don't think you should be obligated to pay for the music lessons, however, I would pay for half IF the mother made the effort to get her there.
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16-02-2015 11:28 #29
Haven't read all posts, in the past the child support covered everything, the paying parent bought clothes for their own house and paid for activities done in their time, we were the receiving parent for dss a while and we covered everything else from school fees to regular activities ie swimming, karate.
I would never expect bio mum to pay child support AND extra for activities.
I don't think it's fair for you to keep paying for her classes if bio mum isn't taking her. Is there any way you could take her to make sure she's going but also not making her miss out? If that wasn't an option I would no longer be paying for the classes
16-02-2015 11:48 #30
In my case, cs received for three of my children is a nominal amount to cover all direct and indirect expenses as described above. The amount was assessed by child support but he pays me directly and it's almost what child support said to pay.
My partner and I pay for all extracurricular activities including costumes, instruments, travel, and all extra school fees. I also pay for any birthday presents the kids need to take to parties, clothes and shoes, toiletries, bags whatever for when they're at their fathers house. He occasionally helps with a part of something like he recently bought one of the children a used violin, it was a first! He literally pays for cs and that's it. He mostly takes them to his parents, so he's not even providing food for them at his house.
As for the second part, I'd stop paying for the music tuition, it's clearly not working.
Ultimately it would be fair to pay cs as assessed, then half of agreed activities, and then only what's needed for them at your house. I'd certainly be happy with that.
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