I recently got an invite for a friends 40th birthday. She's not a very close friend anymore, we hardly see each other, she's lovely though, the distance is due to busy and very different lives.
So I was all excited to get the invite and in my head was planning what I would wear and I was all set to RSVP yes when I saw right at the bottom the dress code is formal white attire.
Okay so here's the problem. I'm overweight and have a difficult body shape and finding clothes that fit is a nightmare, not to mention plus size clothes are so expensive. I never wear white, I mean ever, I literally own no white clothes, I'm into dark colours.
I've had a look online to see if I can find any formal white dresses in my size but I can't, except for plus size wedding type dresses, but I think they're a bit much for someone else's birthday; they also cost a fortune and I can't justify spending that much money for something I'll never wear again. And I know whatever I buy I won't wear again.
So what do I do? Do I RSVP no, it seems so silly, and what if she asks why, do I make up a white lie, I'll feel ridiculous saying I can't come because I don't have anything to wear? So what would you do?
On a side note, I really hate invites that include a specific dress code, I mean yes 'formal, casual, smart casual' is fine but shouldn't adults be able to wear any colour they like!?
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16-02-2015 00:57 #1Senior Member
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Wwyd? Birthday invite with very specific dress code
16-02-2015 01:14 #2
Do you have a baby omit young child? You could wear something formal but a different colour and apologise on the night and say DS or DD threw up on / dirtied it (the 'white one') so you had to change and wear what you are wearing.
It's a white lie but better than not going at all.
16-02-2015 01:26 #3
I think I would ask for more clarification on what she's wanting. Do you know where the party is? Is she planning a surprise wedding? Seems a little odd for a 40th (unless this is her usual lifestyle). If there is any 'room to move' I would be looking for something white formal of another era. Vintage can be awesome and mostly cheaper.
16-02-2015 05:59 #4
I'd probably not go. I wouldn't make a big deal of it though, just RSVP saying that unfortunately you are unable to attend. It wouldn't be worth possibly straining the friendship by telling her your not going because you have nothing to wear.
16-02-2015 06:51 #5
I went to a black and white party and wore green as I didn't have anything formal that fitted. I felt so uncomfortable as I was the only one not wearing that colour. Just try online, eBay, or even op shops. If you can't find anything don't go.
16-02-2015 06:57 #6-
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Do you have any friends that are good at sewing. I would get a white skirt or simple white dress made up. Or what about a white blazer or shawl?
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16-02-2015 06:57 #7
Are there any Facebook buy swap sell pages for plus size clothing? Not sure if that's something that exists..? Most op shops will also have a decent plus size clothing section. Our do you know anyone else your size who you might be able to borrow from?
It would be shame for you to miss the party, but if you're not going to be able to relax and feel comfortable while there, then I'd probably decline the invite :/
16-02-2015 06:58 #8
16-02-2015 06:59 #9
I'm with you in that I hate invites that have such specific requirements. It might sound like a fun idea to the host, but can be really expensive or difficult for the guest (as in your case).
But I wouldn't go in a different colour if it says all white because chances are everyone else will be in white and a different colour will stand out like a sore thumb.
Since its not a close friend, I wouldn't go if I couldn't find the right clothes to wear.
16-02-2015 07:03 #10
Maybe as a PP said a black dress with a white shawl or jacket and accessories? I think that wouldn't stand out as much!
Maybe talk to your friend, im sure she would rather you go then not only because of clothing
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