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    Default *Trigger warning.* talking to your kids about DV.

    Do you talk to your kids about DV?
    Another thread got me thinking. I always thought everyone did.

    I talk to my kids about physical, sexaul violence and emotional abuse. As part of life lessons. While I haven't experienced it my husband has. His father towards his mother.

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    Yes.
    There have been issues in their past, and they asked questions.
    Now, we discuss it whenever it comes up.

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    Yes. I think it's extremely important to discuss in an age appropriate fashion. I talk with DD about not only what DV is (it's more than hitting, but controlling behaviour, social abuse etc) and what behaviours to look for, and run from. DS is younger but we discuss never putting our hands on someone in anger, especially girls. That a decent man never ever hits a woman. Obviously women can hit men too, but statistically male on female violence makes up the majority.

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    I havent - but definitely will.

    Its more a case of showing and modelling behaviour that is acceptable. We have a loving and respectful relationship ... where violence, emotional or mental abuse is not ever ok.

    As she grows and we discuss relationships, this kind of discussion will definitely be a part of it

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    I have spoken about violence in general and how it isnt an answer and teaching them healthy ways to deal with their emotions, but actual domestic violence, no i havent yet. My boys are still quite young (6, 4, and 20 months).

    We have however had to talk (age appropriately of course) about sexual abuse due to my sister being molested and my oldest son is the reason we found out about it.

    I think its definitely important and I will be talking to my boys about it as they grow up. I am painfully aware of the damage that all types of domestic abuse can cause. I dont want my boys to ever go through it and I most certainly dont want them to grow up being abusive. I think education about it is important.

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    This will definitely be something that I will be impressing upon my children. I used to worry about raising a girl not to stand for being abused but now I have a boy, I realise how utterly important it is that I teach him how to be respectful of women and the people around him. I don't want him to think it is ever okay to treat a woman with anything less than the utmost respect.

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    I haven't yet but I will for sure!

    I was in a DV relationship and I think it's very important for it to be talked about. It shouldn't be a taboo topic! Knowledge is power. I hope the knowledge I give DD will help her not be in that situation or speak up if she is.

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    My DS is only 3 but we already say generalised comments about how hitting is not ok. When he's older we'll go more in depth about it. I believe that it's so important for him to learn to be respectful of women but to also have respect for himself.

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    I think the other thing I will impress upon him is something I had never thought of till someone posted it here and that is to never sleep with a girl who is drunk (eg. when you pick her up at a bar). She can't legally consent and it's just not worth it for a quick shag.

    I'd also like to think that he'll be a gentleman who would take her on a date first, anyway!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Apple iPhart6 View Post
    I think the other thing I will impress upon him is something I had never thought of till someone posted it here and that is to never sleep with a girl who is drunk (eg. when you pick her up at a bar). She can't legally consent and it's just not worth it for a quick shag.

    I'd also like to think that he'll be a gentleman who would take her on a date first, anyway!
    This is huge and something ive been thinking about a lot lately too, (dont know if you watch switched at birth?)


 

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