I get a call today from mum to wish my son a happy birthday today.
Thing is it was last week.
Then she insists I told her it was today....
I feel annoyed about this.
Am I overreacting?
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11-02-2015 17:43 #1
Parents 'forgot' grandchild's birthday
11-02-2015 17:49 #2
Nope ex dh didn't ring his daughter for her birthday until 10:30 that night. She was asleep by then. She turned 14. He rang the next day and told her he was busy. Um you forgot you deadbeat. His parents never ring either of their grandkids for their birthdays.
No your not over reacting.
11-02-2015 17:51 #3
I don't think you're overreacting. Doesn't matter when you told her it was ... Wouldn't you remember when your grandchild was born?
11-02-2015 17:54 #4Senior Member
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Does your Mum normally forget important dates?
I know that in regards to my Dad I would be more surprised if he remembered either of my boys birthdays - he knows the months though lol
11-02-2015 17:56 #5
Forgetting is easy to do. But not knowing the date is worse!!
11-02-2015 18:03 #6
Normally I would say you aren't overreacting BUT just yesterday, my normally super organised and on the ball mum asked me her only grandchilds date of birth. She couldn't remember. I was floored. She was at his birth! I really thought this would be something etched in her mind. Just depends what sort of person she is. If she was a bit selfish and oblivious of other people I might be miffed. If she is normally caring and you feel this was a genuine mistake, then let it go. Upsetting yes but she did call today. Better then never.
11-02-2015 18:17 #7
You know what's worse.
Me I am always forgetting my kids birthdates. Not their birthday. But the year. If someone could tattoo that on my brain I would be externally grateful. A nurse or someone will ask their birth date and my mind goes totally blank every freaking time.
11-02-2015 18:18 #8
I guess I would say as much as grandparents generally love their grandkids...they aren't THEIR kids.
I think its unresonable to expect them to just remember.
Unfortunately as much as we love our little ones, we cant expect anyone else, family or not, to feel exactly the same way, and that's okay on their part
11-02-2015 18:18 #9
Yeah better late than never......nah.
Not anymore. She has always insisted I get things wrong. I reminded her several times before the date (she asked) and then argued that it was the day after her other grandchild's birthday. The other grandchild was given birthday wishes on her birthday but my son gets forgotten.
It wasn't that she forgot. I can accept that. What sticks in my craw is that she said I told her the wrong date.
Like I don't know my own child's birthday.
And I am made to feel like I have failed somehow when, really, the ball should be firmly in the other court!
Ugh. Just over it I think.
11-02-2015 18:23 #10
I'd probably be upset but I would make a fuss about it (I'm NOT saying OP did - I just mean I would prob brush it off cause I hate confrontation with my family especially)
My mum actually forgot my birthday, so did my son (even though DH reminded him). I was pretty upset, but I didn't say anything.
She send me a text about 1 & 1/2 weeks later saying she feels sick to her stomach, that something didn't feel right. She was very upset. So I'm glad I didn't say anything.
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