One thing that has always stuck with me from doing mandatory notification training is that you should never look at abuse/ neglect from the perspective of the intention of the adult. You should only look at the perspective of the impact on the child. It is in our nature to sympayhise with the adult, she only did it once, she was having a rough week, she had no money left for food, she just snapped, she was really stressed, etc. It means nothing when it comes to making a report. You should only consider how the abuse or neglect impacts the child.
I also hate the term 'dobbing' in relation to reports. That mentality has to change. Making a report is not dobbing, you are not trying to get someone in trouble. If that
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04-02-2015 13:07 #121
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04-02-2015 13:16 #122
2 words Maddie. McCann!!!
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I couldn't do it. I'd be too worried
04-02-2015 15:44 #124
All I'm saying is that to me it's not neglect. It's extremely stupid and irresponsible, and yes, she needs to pull her head in, but that one act I struggle to see how it's neglect or abuse. There's no point telling me "that's the law"...thanks I'm aware. Laws in a few states also say age of consent is 16...doesn't mean I have to agree with it.
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04-02-2015 15:48 #125
It may very well be a once-off but that doesn't change it.
The problem is that it may not be a once off, and that's why she needs to be spoken to.
As for you personally not considering it as neglect, well that's your choice.
And it is that mother's choice too.
But it is not the child's choice- and that's the main point, the child.
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Just because it's a one off doesn't mean that it isn't neglect. One-offs can still cause harm to the child. The mum deserves a boot up the bum regardless of how often she's done it.
04-02-2015 16:15 #128
My problem is not with you, at all. My problem is with the sense of dismissal. That because it may be a once off, it's ok to let it go. That is slightly terrifying. That's all I'm trying to say.
Sorry if it seems I am singling you out, or if I caused offence in any way.
04-02-2015 16:21 #129
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04-02-2015 16:24 #130
I also struggle with the idea of 'she only did it once, so that makes it ok.' My DH only hit me once. He was stressed and he snapped. He only did it once, though, so its not really domestic violence.
(He has never actually hit me, im just using it as an example)
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