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    Default Delaying prep - QLD

    Hi guys My son just started prep this week. It was a horrid week. The first day I get an exercise book page note about how he doesnt understand what they tell him, cant follow instructions. Well he can for me and after seeing the classroom I think it is way too full on and I think I should have kept him in kindy another year.. He was in a kindergarten program last year but they didn't mention anything of this, as I say he is fine at home, he is a lot quieter than most children, very shy I know that but he does speak and if we ask him to do a job he can do it. I had a meeting with special needs teacher and she had apparently observed him and says much of the same, but also says he has no motor skills and muscle tone! Saying things like he cant put his lunch box away even. But he can do all of these things. His teacher is not nurturing in any way and I think this is why he is clamming up so to speak. He also is not eating, he is obviously not comfortable there. My mothers intuition is telling me that he needs an extra year at kindy. The kindy program he was in I don't think it was enough of a preparation for him, i.e.. they didn't really enforce the drawing / painting / etc because he is not really interested in it. I think they just let him do his own thing. So do I try and get him into a kindy, do I look at other schools? Has anyone ever been in this situation before?

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    That sounds really stressful! What does the school recommend? I kept my DS1 back, so he did 2 years if kindy, but his Kindy Teacher approached me at the end of the first year with her concerns, and by the time he started school this year he was very much prepared.
    I would ask at school if they think he would benefit from another year at Kindy rather than starting school. Did they suggest the low muscle tone is a medical problem, perhaps should see a dr about this?

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    Is it that simple to just pull them out of prep and reenrol for next year?
    How is he socially with the other kids?
    Have you compared his abilities to the "are they ready for school" checklists often floating around.
    - able to dress / undress
    - go toilet unassisted
    - sit down and concentrate
    - follow simple instructions
    - unpack / pack up
    - take out lunch / unwrap


    Maybe try to google a few check lists and compare to your son.
    Maybe be needs a little time to settle in. Maybe it's the teacher or school.
    I wouldn't pull him out just yet.

    Ps- can he hold a pencil and write his name or trace/copy some letters?

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    Just a thought, not sure if you're in Brisbsne, but I think the mater does a school readiness assessment - http://wellness.mater.org.au/Current-Programs/Getting-Set-For-Prep

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    Thanks ladies - socially with his cousins he is totally fine. Socially around people he doesnt know he is not, he has been clamming up not speaking or doing anything at school, just sits or stands on his own. Even when his cousin and her friend came to see him and play with him at lunch they got in trouble by the teacher for doing that, so really not happy with this school. The school principal basically has said (relayed through another teacher so didn't even speak to me ) well prep isn't compulsory so the ball is in your court! They don't even seem to want to help us. I can get him to trace his name, he has a hard time concentrating when doing things like this though, he just isn't very interested in it. I wish his kindy last year would have given me more of an indication that he needed another year before prep but they didn't at all, which is sad.

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    I would pull him out. It sounds like he is not emotionally and socially ready. Another year could make a huge difference. Do you think you can find him a kindy spot for this year that has a good school readiness program?
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    I've been in education for over 15 years and as AP the last 5 I have seen this happen many times. The kinder to school transition needs a lot of work.

    If you can I would pull him out. Trust your gut. Prep us setting him up for the rest of his learning life. You want him to love it, be confident and develop friendships to enable learning to happen. Your little boy sounds stressed and the school sounds very unhelpful.

    Make an appointment with the principal and tell them your concerns and ask for support and advice.

    My professional opinion for most parents is that 2 years of kinder is preferable for most kids. There are of course exceptions to this.
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    Before you pull him out you need to confirm with the school that they will let him re do prep next year.

    I tried to hold my son back (we are on the Gold Coast) and the school told me it was fine to keep him back but they would just put him straight into year 1 next year!! With all the kids that had done a full year of prep 😳😳

    I was so sad and two other local schools refused to let me keep him back also. Said (over the phone, having never met my son or I) that I needed to apply to the ed dept with letters from all of his specialists regarding his disability! He doesn't see any specialists and doesn't have a disability so I knew that option wasn't going to work.

    Honestly I would trust what they are saying and get him checked out for those things just to be sure, but probably give him another year at kindy if I could.

    Good luck.

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    I would talk to the school and see your options. It may have just been first week jitters but might not be.

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    I spoke to the school re the delaying prep for the year and doing another year of kindy and the reply from the principal relayed through another teacher was ' well prep isn't compulsory so the ball is in her court'. So no ' Oh what is Toby interested in etc, try to engage him or move him to another class etc.. We feel he is in the too hard basket. But thats ok, now I know where I won't be sending hi next year! I feel it is more than first week jitters.. Looking at kindy programs today


 

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