I woukd make the move to a new place asap. I think only parents have the right to stop a child moving away. Also if you are further away it will be less practical for the grandparents to have regular contact which will be taken into account.
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21-01-2015 10:29 #31
21-01-2015 12:52 #32
Serenity Love. Ive actually been thinking of you as I commented on quite a few of your posts so knew you would understand. Im pretty sure you gave birth just before me, and at dandenong also?
Were u blessed with another ds or a dd?
Are you still in contact with your inlaws? Hope life is on the improve for you and dh too x
21-01-2015 13:03 #33
Ok so ive got an update..
Fil sent my dh a txt yesterday asking to meet up which we both thought wasnt a good idea.
Every time mil does something to us he always has to fix her **** and they never apologize. He uses guilt to make dh feel bad. And also they are purposely trying to keep me out of it and tear our marriage apart. So we agreed no catching up. Dh put his dad on the spot by calling him last night.
He asked what he wanted and fil can talk on the phone as he doesnt have time to meet up after work, he has a family to come home to (im so proud of him for sticking up for himself by saying that as they always undermine us a family and think they should come first)
Fil said they will drop the court action... Thank god!!!!!!
The conversation pretty much ended there. No sorry for anything!
We were both so emotional after that phonecall. Poor dh was balling his eyes out, ive never seen him like that before and it really broke my heart :-(
He's saddened that his own family would do this to him without even trying to resolve any issues. They have done this all his life and subsequently my dh now sees a psychologist to deal with this as even when his older (middle)brother died when he was 14 due to mental illness they swept it under the rug and never speak about him.
Im glad this may be the end of it as we wont be contacting them again but so sad for my dh. We literally have no family now. None.
But im thankful to have our beautiful family intact and some very close friends
21-01-2015 13:27 #34
Want to give your DH a great big hug xxx
21-01-2015 13:36 #35
As others have said, cut off all contact and keep copies of everything sent to you. If you were thinking about moving anyway, do it and don't tell them or any other family members where you've moved to. Make sure things like Facebook don't have location services turned on so no one can snitch to them about your location because they saw it there.
21-01-2015 22:50 #36
Oh my god I am so relieved with your update too. I had a feeling hey were full of it. ya know what I have realised with my narc mum and Inlaws? They don't care about my kids. They care more about controlling me and causing me stress. I knew with your inlaws being narcs that they already got their kicks out of stressing you poor buggers out by threatening. Its just terrible because the games they play are so so sooooo low. I don't even know where to begin with the **** my mother has put me through lately...
Your poor DH. And YOU! I can only imagine the HELL they have put you both through. Thank god you're cutting them off, they have sincerely proven they are complete and utter lost causes.
Did you have your bub in Dandy as well???? My god its been ages since I have been on! yes I had DD! DS is a big bro now and he loves her so much and she already adores him its very sweet! I can't believe 2 months has already passed now, when did you have your bub??
I hope things look up for you guys now and you're able to recover and find peace asap. You both deserve it. Very sorry you both had to go through that. Fricken mongrels!!
Oh and a update on my Inlaws from Hell - I stupidly agreed to visiting them on NYD so they could meet DD, and MIL had other relatives here as well so she used that as a opportunity to just steam roll DH and I and she even unleashed her manipulative crap onto DS and had him feeling very anxious and lost. I saw red. I had some stern words to her and then we left. And then about an hour ago she sent me a friends request on facebook LMAO. Yeah right! Request denied!
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