Just had bub #3 two weeks ago and it's been so hard.
The first 7 days was a breeze, he slept all the time and waking every 3-4 hours for a feed.
I was breastfeeding and topping up with formula while waiting for milk to come in.
This week it's been so hard! I am lucky if he sleeps more than 10min in his cot!
He only sleeps on me and calm when cuddled. That includes night time. I tried many ways of putting him back to the cot but he only lasts max 10 min in there.
My milk has finally come in and I have tried breastfeeding him exclusively but he's just not satisfied. He would suck and pull away crying then try sucking again then cry again. And he just seems to be hungry all the time! After he pulls off there's still milk coming out so it's not that there's no milk. And he whinges every hour for feed.
I think he's showing a preference for boob already because when I try to give him bottle top up this week he just refuses it or do the same, suck, cries, suck again and cry again. But he is more settled once I get some formula into him.
Two days ago I ditched the boob and have him formula all day and night and he was so much better, content and settled. Then today and last night I gave him boob only again and he just whinges and whinges and won't sleep.
I am so tired and cranky.
Right now I am really wondering what I was thinking wanting another baby
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12-01-2015 19:44 #1
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12-01-2015 19:56 #2
Just remember "It's only a phase, it's only a phase"!
If you are wanting him to get some BM still - have you tried pumping and putting it into a bottle? I'm wondering if it's mainly the fore milk he's getting and not the fuller stuff if he's pulling away so much. It is very time consuming - particularly with 2 others to look after.
My advice would be to do the best you can without losing it. If he is fed the best way you can do it then that is great.
With his sleep it could be down to not being full - make sure he gets a full feed (I'm sure you'd know all about this already having two children - just ignore anything that I've said if it's obvious to you!). Try the "three day rule" with resettling techniques and sleep cues. If he's in a habit then he will much more prefer snuggling on you than being in a cot.
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12-01-2015 19:59 #3
If the formula is helping him settle and sleep, go for it!
BTW congrats on the new bundle
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12-01-2015 20:05 #4
my youngest grandson was very difficult to settle. he seemed to only sleep if he was on someone chest lying on his tummy. he was getting plenty of milk. if you laid him on his side into the cot. he would wake up and scream after about 5mins.. he also would not settle in his car seat. any drive was a nightmare with him. lasted about 4 months. I think he had some sort of reflux/silent reflux.??
just go with whatever gives you the most settled baby. hugs, marie
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12-01-2015 20:37 #5
Sounds like you have a very strong letdown which may explain why he is pulling off and he cant cope with the flow? It could be causing wind which might explain the unsettledness.
Eta: try expressing (by hand) for a minute or two before a feed until the flow settles.
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12-01-2015 20:48 #6
I was going to say silent reflux too, but if he's happier on formula I'm not sure as silent reflux is generally caused by an intolerance such as cows milk protein, which is stronger in formula than it is in breast milk.
Do you have any issue with switching to formula if he's happier and more settled?
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12-01-2015 20:54 #7
My suggestions would be to put him in bed with you and offer a dummy. My son loved to suck for comfort and would not settle unless in bed with is. He was in our bed for 3 months. Once I gave my son a dummy, he was also much happier to just be able to suck as he used to get frustrated at all the milk coming out.
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12-01-2015 20:59 #8
No advice, just big hugs xx
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12-01-2015 21:06 #9Senior Member
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My DS2 was a bit like this in the first few weeks. I virtually had to carry him around all day and co-sleep with him for the first 3 weeks and then it all settled down. It is hard with 2 other children, so do whatever you need to get through these early days, hoping it will all settle for you soon
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12-01-2015 21:33 #10
I have breastfed my other two and we wanted to be consistent with all 3 kids. I personally don't have problem with formula, although I would feel selfish. I had a chat with hubby about giving up the boob and he seems to think I shouldn't give up so easily. So I am trying to make it work.
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