Sorry to say it sounds like you're dealing with a total nutcase. My DH's ex is too! I feel your pain! We can't do anything right.
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06-01-2015 17:06 #11
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06-01-2015 17:08 #12
Are you sure your step kiddies arnt telling her porkys and making out your really unreasonable? Maybe thats why shes so defensive all the time...id be getting DH to have a stern chat to her to tell her to back off and let you parent when they are in your care!
06-01-2015 17:11 #13
oh for the love of god if that is all she could find to complain about then you are doing just fine
its like dealing with a child - choose your battles and let the small stuff go. Its annoying, its frustrating, you want to bash your head against the wall ... but at the end of the day its not worth fighting with her over. The kids are the ones who end up paying as they have to go home to her.
so let it go, and come vent on here about how petty she is
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06-01-2015 18:10 #17Senior Member
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I feel for you! My DH ex is very much like this but quite abusive and insulting to DH in her txts. My step kids often do tell things out of context and she sends abusive txt then straight away or without thinking first. I think you sound like you are doing amazingly well both with the kids and her!! It's certainly harder than I ever thought being a stepmum and the 'new' wife... The books 'skirts at war' and 'no-ones the b!tch' helped me massively. I found I didn't always agree but it have me hope things would get better and see things sometimes why they react like they do! It's written by a mum and her kids stepmum.
Good luck, sometimes it doesn't matter what we do, it is never right in their mind and this is really their issue
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Sounds like your DP's ex has her wires crossed about what happened. Either because she is a crank and likes to think the worst and/or because your DSD either intentional or unintentionally misconstrued the truth.
I would let your hubby handle it. He could either ignore it or say something civil to his ex such as "there appears to be some misunderstanding about what has occured. Feel free to call me first if there are ever any questions about what has happened when the kids are in my care. It's important to note in advance however that we both have different parenting styles and that's ok."
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06-01-2015 19:09 #20
If she is harassing you Im not sure what it is she could report you for?
She can't report you for not agreeing with or entertaining her.
If she turned up, Id not answer, why should you need too? I never answer to anyone who didn't arrange to come over.
Maybe keep a diary of what happened and the backlash you received (a print out of her email, screen shot of her text etc) incase she does ever try and pin you for it (not sure how she could though)
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