Chemical Pregnancy

[unicornsandrainbows]

I'm not sure if i'm writing in the right group. I got a bfp on Saturday but it wasn't meant to be and i lost the pregnancy today. I have been TTC #1 for nearly 5 years and this was my first positive after lifestyle changes and charting. I was going to take a break from the internet but i have no real support group as all my friends have children and i don't speak to my family. I'm feeling very desolate and heartbroken. I don't know what i'm doing wrong. Is this a sign i'm not to be a mother even though thats all i want to be? We are renting a house with 2 spare bedrooms so we can have a family and they are empty we live off one paycheck while i try to find work. Hubby wants to try again but i'm far too upset right now

[tazz475]

So sorry to hear this hun. I don't think that this is a sign that you're not destined to be a mummy, I think the fact that you've been so persistent in TTC shows that you are in fact mummy material. Have you seen a fertility specialist? Maybe they can help you fall pregnant quicker because 5 years is a really long time to be TTC with no positive, you can't wait that long between bfps.

If you feel as though you aren't ready to start trying again you should let your hubby know. You shouldn't be doing anything you don't feel comfortable with right now. I know the only thing that got me through my miscarriages was to start trying again but everyone is different.

Again I'm so sorry for your loss, here's hoping you have your sticky bub soon. xxx

[unicornsandrainbows]

We are getting a fertility specialist arranged. We are dipping into our saving majorly but at this point there is no point having money saved for a nursery or baby things without a precious bundle

[tazz475]

We are getting a fertility specialist arranged. We are dipping into our saving majorly but at this point there is no point having money saved for a nursery or baby things without a precious bundle

I think you would always regret it if you didn't try hun.

For now all you can do is pour yourself a nice glass of wine, relax and take care of yourself. And make sure hubby is taking care of you too. xx

[lilypily]

Yep time for a fertility specialist. Research the best one for your area as you want the best of the best on your side.

[unicornsandrainbows]

yes. i have no idea how to research specialists. Do i need to find one before i go to doctors again? Hubby made me my favourite meal for dinner but i didn't feel like eating. Does this cramping ease?? i have so many questions and i don't know how to ask them.

[grumpysmurf]

Hugest hugs unicorns x I hope U get some answers

[unicornsandrainbows]

i do want to try again. I don't want to stop ttcing but i'm not sure how to go about it. would the ttc group be able to help me?

[delirium]

No this does not mean you are not meant to be a mum! For my 3 children we ttc for 8 long years. I very much believe all my children were meant to be, and I was meant to be their mum.

I'm very sorry for your loss You will have some cramping and may pass clots. I found I bled for a bit longer than a period.

I'm going to link you 2 groups here that saved my sanity during the 3+ years it took to get this bubba. They are wonderful women in the same boat, most that are seeing FS, doing IVF and are well versed in what you can do.

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...erm-TTC-chat-3

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...nt-Mid-30-s!-2

I'm assuming you are in your 30's for the 2nd group.

[unicornsandrainbows]

Your post made me cry Delirium. Thanks so much. I am 30 this year but i feel years older than i am. Thank you for the links.