My mummy guilt is always there. I've taken time off, worked part rime, and now full time. Every option has compromises, and I've felt guilty about something no matter what I do.
My wonderful MIL keeps telling me "Do what feels right for you, don't worry about what other people think". Best advice ever. Hard to do though, when you are judging yourself! A friend of mine has a "guilt box" where she writes down all the things she feels mummy guilt about, then puts the worries in the box, and puts the box away. Out of your head, acknowledged but put away. I'm going to try that this year!
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04-01-2015 08:21 #11Senior Member
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I didn't mean to offend anyone, sorry. I just meant she may think returning to work is what she wants now but it may not be what she wants when the baby is actually here.
Sorry to anyone I offended
04-01-2015 09:04 #15
My bub is 3.5 months old and I'm returning to work 1 day per week, this week, building up to full time by 1 March.
I wanted to go back to work after 4-6 weeks.
Partly because I love my job
Partly because I'm good at my job and I didn't think I was very good at this mothering gig. I didn't understand DS at all
Partly because I was so crazy bored it wasn't funny
And finally partly because of PND which made me have some fairly weird and negative thoughts.
The decision to return was not made lightly but is the right decision for our family.
I'll be paying around $100 per day with some CCR but no CCB.
It's worth it to us not only because it's less than the income I'll bring but also for my mental health.
As others have said, think about what your child care options are and what they might cost. Family, family day care, child care centre, other options.
Add to this, the other costs of bubs - nappies, formula if you need it etc. will you be able to manage financially?
04-01-2015 13:44 #16
Thank you all for your feedback. I really appreciate it. I have no idea how paid parental leave and all the centrelink benefits work. Am i best to chat to centrelink about what i am entitled to?
04-01-2015 14:10 #17
If your a worker and dh earns under 150k then you will get $641 per week for 18weeks plus any workplace leave
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