My daughters father and I broke up about 2 years ago. I live on my own and receive the single parenting payments from centrelink. About 6 months ago we slept together for first time in ages and I got pregnant. He is now wanting to move in but live in seperate bedroom and help with our 3 year old and new baby when she gets here. However, he only wants to pay rent not to financially support us. Does anyone know if we would be able to get the seperated under the same roof payments? I cant afford to stop getting centrelink. Thanks
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03-01-2015 11:33 #1Junior Member
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Centrelink, seperated under the same roof advice
03-01-2015 11:45 #2Senior Member
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I'm going to be honest. I know it's not the question you asked, but I'd be running a mile from that situation. Unless you mean split rent + still pay c/s. If he means move in and only pay his share of rent then I'd run very very fast and far.
On your original question, I'd discuss it with c/l. I think him not paying c/s will affect your FTB (I think?).
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03-01-2015 11:55 #3
I think you may struggle to get CL to approve this. From their eyes this situation would set off the suss radar big time. You have a baby, break up and are getting SPP. You then get pg by him again and you want him to move in but still get full payments.
Of course there are plenty of genuine cases, yours included. And I have heard of CL approving, but not after another baby has been conceived. Not saying they won't approve but be prepared to be really investigated.
As to your ex, I'm going to agree with Jenna here. He gets you pg again, wants to move in (and save on rent/utilities by sharing) but doesn't want to support his kids? Charming
03-01-2015 12:05 #4
Speak to centrelink but i think you will not find it easy to keep your payments in this situation
03-01-2015 12:37 #5
Yeah not applying for child support affects ypur ftb.
I've seen those forms and the questions are full on. They ask you how each of ypu will deal with expenses and children. Its not easy
They would be suss if he was just paying rent. Why wpuls you accept him only paying rent? What about other bills?
03-01-2015 13:18 #6
I imagine Centrelink would be very suss on this.
Is he going to pay half the bills, child support?
03-01-2015 13:19 #7
To answer just the child support part, you need to definitely contact child support and you can state that you have come to a private agreement and that will satisfy Centrelink. However it means they also will not chase your ex for non-payment in the future if you guys ever go down that path.
I'd say this will be a hard sell. Is your FOBS speaking about living together permanently or just while the Bub is little? It seems like this arrangement has lots of emotional pitfalls, tbh. Is this what you want?
03-01-2015 13:48 #8
03-01-2015 14:27 #9
Please don't emotionally put yourself through this. As hard and harsh as this sounds you're either together or not.
No experience but Personally I don't think you can get away with it.
If he's the father of the child, living under the same roof and contributing to living expenses and helping raise his children, even if you're not together you are together. There's been proof in the past you've had a sexual relationship ( resulting in the children) so who's to say you don't have more moments of passion. I don't see how it can been seen any other way. The fact a child was also conceived whilst "separated" also indicates there's a high chance of a relapse.
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03-01-2015 17:25 #10
I did this with my ex for a couple of months 2.5 years ago when he was kicked out of his apartment, Centrelink approved it. I think if you're being honest and have nothing to hide then it can be done. Be aware though that you may need to get third parties to verify it and they may do spot checks including visits to your home.
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