It is strange, trust your gut and keep a close eye on things. Unfortunately statistics don't lie and he's getting to an "experimental" age
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21-12-2014 22:13 #11
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22-12-2014 02:17 #13
But I don't see him often, so he could be totally different when I am not there.
22-12-2014 03:25 #14
Hrm, maybe next time say to SIL, i noticed that so and so has been a little bit withdrawn, is everything ok? And she might spill the beans
22-12-2014 05:23 #15
I have a 12 year old relative (female) who would do something along those lines. She's not on the spectrum, she's jus a REALLY cuddly kid and doesn't fully understand personal space.
Personally, I'd take the approach to speaking to him directly, saying "no, that's not okay. People need their personal space. It's not okay to keep hugging someone just because YOU enjoy it."
I know not everyone's as comfortable as I am parenting other peoples' children though :P
22-12-2014 06:11 #16Senior Member
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I agree that he may be on the spectrum, you have described my nephew to a tee. We had to deal with a similar situation and it was me who bought it up with my sil. I have no qualms in speaking up when it comes to my children, you need to be the voice for them as a 2 year old cant express themselves properly. This boy needs to learn personal boundaries and allow your dd her space. Please speak up for your daughter. Im not saying he will do anything to your dd but I know from personal experience that sometimes when something doesnt seem right there is a possibility it is not. 11 year old boys can do innapropriate things, I learnt that the hard way.
22-12-2014 06:18 #17
From what you've described it sounds like he may have a bit of a hard time connecting with others, and it sounds like your DD is generally pretty happy to interact with him, until he goes overboard with the cuddling. It could just be that he is really happy to have someone interact with him, so has 'latched on' to her.
But always, always trust your gut instinct and if something doesn't sit right about it, then you're right in either addressing it or avoiding putting your DD in that situation.
22-12-2014 06:34 #18
As PP have said go with your gut. I have seen a book you can buy that might help with talking to your DD http://www.fpq.com.au/publications/t...t_a_bottom.php
I don't have it but it looks like it could be a good addition to any child's bookshelf
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22-12-2014 07:01 #19
I would be uncomfortable seeing my child in that situation. He sounds far too clingy to your DD - even if his intentions aren't sinister, it's overbearing behaviour and I'm sure your DD would appreciate some breathing space from this boy.
Good luck with your talk with SIL.
22-12-2014 07:06 #20
I would speak up. Regardless of his intentions you snd your DD are uncomfortable with it and he snd his parents need to know. I would be upfront with the parents first and then just say directly "DD is not sitting on your lap" and re-direct him.
My sister had a young boy infatuated with her when she was little it was annoying and eventually quite frightening for her.
Be direct on this one.
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