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    IMO there is no such thing as being too anxious about pool safety. The fact that they are so blase about the risks means that if it were me, i would never let my child there without me being there too. Some people just think it wont happen in their home, but it is a huge risk and not worth it.

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    You should be anxious, it's your role as a parent to sense danger for your little one and this is a dangerous situation. I can't tell from your post whether your partner is your child's dad. His response is a little too casual too. Call the council.

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    My parents were casual about the pool fence. We live in the country and there was a dam on the other side and they said we don't have to fence the dam so we won't fence the pool. Then my sister had kids and a fence went up. Then I had kids (I live with them) and they installed a double gate entry so even if they get through one gate there's another.

    Imagine if you shut up just to not cause trouble and something happened? How would you ever live with yourself? Just reading about that baby in Geelong that got hit with a fork lift crawling on his dad's automotive shops floor. One moment of eyes off him and he's gone forever.

    No one can pay attention all the time. I was swimming with my 3yo in the shallows at the public pool and talking to my friend. She was right next to me. Next thing I know the life gaurs yells out and she was struggling in the deep end. She had floaties on but it wasn't enough to keep her out of trouble. And I consider myself uber vigilant.

    Every time you visit them I would make her wear a life vest, even when she's there. Though that could make them guess who tipped counsel off!!

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    In qld every time a house is sold or rented out it needs to have a pool safety certificate done. There is a page on FB called Hannah's foundation and they have so much info about what is legal and what's not on that page. I have asked questions on the comments before and they always get back to me with the answers

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    No way my child would ever be at that house without me there watching her every move. Too dangerous and the in laws sound totally irresponsible and complacent - I would never entrust the safety of my child to them - and after what you have said, probably not even if they put a fence up. The fence/gate is only as reliable as the people operating it. ..

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    Having the same problems with my dad and their pool. Before the baby was born he was adamant the fence wpuld not go up. Mum told me this week he's finally looking at fences (baby is 8 months now). He have me all the same lines about pool put in before certain date and his property fences snd house doors to outside comply. Told me just to watch my child. Grr.
    Anyway it's being done now. We dont visit often (twice a year maybe). Will be there this xmas and baby is crawling so I'm gonna be on high alert!

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    Unfortunately your dad is correct about the age of the pool and only requiring automatic flyscreens. We had to install one in our last house as the previous owner never bothered. However, I would stress the importance of a fence having had a child fall in. We were next to him and he was only in for seconds, but it is something I never want to experience again. Prevention is better than vigilance as it only takes a second.

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    All you can do is ensure your child is never there without you watching.

    Anyone who is so casual and dismissive about safety would never be babysitting my child.

    You can never be too careful when it comes to pool safety.

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    Default Pool safety: too anxious or not??

    I think your fear is valid and if you don't feel comfortable leaving your child with them then don't - plus they may change their mind once baby is crawling/walking - my in laws don't have a pool but do live on the water with no fence so their yard goes straight into the beach - to be honest I've never not trusted them or even worried about them looking after DS and yes we are all extra vigilant when we are outside with the kids but DS is 4 and his cousins are 3 and 12 and none of the kids ever went out/into the water ever without an adult - but your in laws do seem a bit too blasé about it

    my parents and I both have pool fences so that's never a worry at all, NSW has the same pre existing pool fencing regulations now but will bring in mandatory pool fencing within the next few years

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    Default Pool safety: too anxious or not??

    I'd be anxious too. We have a fully fenced pool AND the auto closing sliding doors outside of that, two layers of protection!

    Little people can be quick, if someone doesn't realise they've slipped out the door how would they know to watch them around the pool.

    I don't blame you for being anxious... But as you can't force them (unless they're breaking laws by now having the pool fenced??) then it's as you say, a case of not babysitting ever.


 

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