Ugh reading those words he spoke to her made me crumple, I can't begin to imagine how awful the little girl felt. I want to cry for her. What a pig. I wonder what the family situation is. And the story of the lady witnessing the girl getting hit in the toilets!!! I can't get that out of my head. I feel awful for these kids. I imagine that its playing on repeat in your mind.
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11-12-2014 21:52 #31Senior Member
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11-12-2014 22:17 #32
In hindsight, yeah I do wish I'd said something. I wished that the second I left.
So go ahead and speculate as to whether or not I had the "pineapples" like you would have, @VicPark and @lincolnsmummy, if it makes you feel superior. So unhelpful and unnecessary but you're entitled to do so ladies, I know how I felt and how in a split second one can make a decision, question your position etc and leave with your heart in your throat.
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11-12-2014 22:31 #33
Hugs OP. I would have most likely done the same as you. I'm terrified of confrontation with a stranger, especially a male, and especially if my daughter is with me. You have to weigh up the situation in a moment and decide whether it's worth the risk of getting involved when you have your own little one to protect. We can't all be there to save the day. This mans behaviour is disgraceful and abusive. I feel so terrible for the little girl. It does make you wonder what happens behind closed doors. I actually doubt that speaking up against this guy would change his ways. He's obviously a douche bag who doesn't care who sees or hears him behaving in an abusive manner.
With witnessing such an event I can understand how stressful it can leave you feeling. You did nothing wrong op. Yes, it would have been fabulous for someone to speak up to this guy, but I wouldn't expect someone to do that.
11-12-2014 22:42 #34
Horrible. Why are some parents so insistent on getting their kid to have a photo of Santa in the first place? That's a real bug bear of mine, especially really little kids who are clearly terrified of him. I know I used to be! Why put them through it when you don't have to? But then to carry on and ridicule them afterwards like this man has done just makes me feel physically ill. I probably wouldn't have said anything either (especially if I had DS with me) but I would have done my best to catch his eye and give him an almighty glare. Unfortunately it's probably just the tip of the iceberg.
11-12-2014 22:55 #35
You made a split second decision and there is nothing wrong with that. I was just stating that I find it sad that an entire room of people (not just you and I am not singling you out at all) stood by and watched.
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11-12-2014 23:07 #36
Do you realise how much worse the situation could have been if someone did speak up? The child would likely be abused much much worse in public for embarrassing the father.
In situations like this, I personally think the best thing to do is remember details and perhaps try to get a glimpse at the registration on the persons car or something and make a report to docs. The more details the better, especially if you heard the little girls name etc.
11-12-2014 23:22 #37Senior Member
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Marigold it's terrible that you saw what you did and I really feel for the little girl what a pig that man is - a poor excuse for a father.
11-12-2014 23:58 #38
Just wanted to add another perspective here as well; @VicPark you mentioned that "quietly tut tutting" achieves nothing. What, exactly, would my pulling this guy up have achieved, do you reckon? I dare say very little- nothing positive, anyway. Someone that deranged is not going to go, "Hmmm, thanks for pointing out my shiit parenting, stranger lady, I'll try a different approach next time"... ? As others have mentioned, if anything, I'd have copped abuse and I'm sure his anger would be directed at his daughter more so the minute they were alone. Besides having my own little one by my side, his little girl resorted to holding onto the very leg of the father who was causing her dismay the moment the librarian spoke to her so you can only imagine the damage seeing her dad getting into a verbal argument with me or anyone else would have done to her already fragile state. There are no winners here. I can only hope beyond hope that this man was having an extremely bad day and his daughter is never again subjected to such a sick display of public humiliation.
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