That is such a good question. I trust DH to keep dd safe and cared for but, just thinking about it now, I don't trust him to know what she needs when. I think it's a control issue for me. Dd is only 4.5 months old and I've never been away from her for more than thirty minutes. I know her so well and I'm not sure he would spot her tired signs or hungry signs like I can. That being said, he'll never learn if I don't let him try.
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27-11-2014 13:59 #11
27-11-2014 14:07 #12
DD is 14months and do I trust DH 100%? Honestly no I don't. I know that DD will be safe and cared for if hubby is looking after her but I also know that he can get very sidetracked and distracted. He will often sit and mess around on his phone/iPad when she is trying to talk to him/play with him because there is an email that MUST BE SENT RIGHT NOW! Or something that he just HAS to look up. Totally p!sses me off! Plus he just often doesn't listen. The number of times I've told him to never take his eyes off her when she's in the bath and then he's wandered out to get her towel rather than just shouting for me to get it. He makes out like it isn't a big deal and that I'm nagging when I call him out on it but he just doesn't get how dangerous some things are. He'll stack boxes in the living room and then she will, predictably, pull them down on herself and get hurt. He just honestly doesn't think things through sometimes. So no, I don't trust him 100%.
27-11-2014 14:13 #13
Do you trust your Other half? *spinoff*
I do about 99.9% only because he can be a bit to relaxed with the toddler. He doesn't get that it takes 2 seconds for her to run out onto the rd so I've stressed to pls not text and not watch her. Or he has forgotten to put her belt on in the car with his mind on work. Or when he sees a mate out he chats and she has once walked off THANK god she found me imagine I wasn't there😫
He is learning though but it takes a lot of nagging and I hate being a nag!!
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27-11-2014 14:16 #14
LaDiDah and AdornedWithCats I applaud your honesty. It must be very difficult to admit that you do not completely trust your partner. It would be an awful way to live your life not being 100% certain that your children are safe in their father's care.
I implicitly trust my husband as I know his parenting style very well and never have any concerns for my children's welfare when they are with their dad. This includes times when they are out on our property. He values their lives more than his own and he's told me so. Thank you to you ladies for making me appreciate how important my faith in him is.
27-11-2014 14:20 #15
He watches Dd whilst I work and knows her wants and needs just as much as I do.
27-11-2014 14:28 #16
27-11-2014 14:33 #17
Absolutely I do. I wouldn't have chosen him to be the fathers children if I didn't.
27-11-2014 14:35 #18
Not 100%. I know she wouldn't be in any danger but there is a lot I'm sure DP wouldn't think to consider or do.
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27-11-2014 14:45 #19Senior Member
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Yes I do. He is a very fun dad when he has them by himself and doesn't pay as much attention to bed times etc. but I know they are safe in his care, and I don't worry about them.
We got away with HEAPS more as kids if our dad had solo care, and he made some pretty dumb decisions sometimes (like hide and seek in the bush in the dark) but man we had fun with him and nothing bad ever happened!
27-11-2014 14:54 #20
Yes, absolutely! He's a really hands on Dad, he loves kids. And I know that he can look after the children, all 4 of them, on his own and he is absolutely fine!
In fact, he'll be solo parenting from Saturday afternoon until Sunday afternoon whilst I go party my backside off!
I wouldn't have had a family with him if I didn't think he would be a capable and responsible parent
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