'I must be the most selfish person on the planet, spending all my money on overseas trips, a home for my children and a new car seems like a much better option than paying $500 for someone who doesn't even like me to come to ny wedding'
You said you didnt attend the hens, the wedding, so your not out of pocket for anything. Its your choice if you want to go and celebrate her pregnancy, but given you haven't attended any other functions im betting shes already expecting you to decline.
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15-11-2014 09:10 #31
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15-11-2014 09:18 #32
lol I think the $250 per person wasn't just for the OP, it was for everyone.
15-11-2014 09:32 #33
I guess it shows you who your true friends are!
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15-11-2014 16:05 #34
@kiwimum890, how well do you know this family friend? If you've dodged out on most of their recent events (as would I given their unreasonably monetary expectations of guests), I'm just wondering why she'd even invite you except for the gift. If she hasn't acknowledged your baby announcement, I wouldn't acknowledge her baby shower invitation...but I'm a cow lol!
15-11-2014 18:11 #35-
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Sounds like you maybe a little jelous of their lavish lifestyle and are perhaps unfairly holding a grudge and making incorrect assumptions? Eg perhaps they had their overseas holiday planned for ages, were genuinely short of money afterwards? Perhaps they haven't acknowledged your birth notice card yet as ... The chick is pregnant and has a lot on her mind at the moment, especially if she is working outside the home as well?
15-11-2014 18:28 #36
Im sad that happy events like this have to be all about "who spent what on me first".
15-11-2014 18:49 #37
I feel like that fact you've been invited to quite a few significant events, and vice versea to them, that neither of you have attended shows the level of friendship. There clearly isn't one.
Just decline when you get the invite. 'Thank you for the invite, however I'm unfortunately unable to attend. Have a lovely day' should suffice. Rather than be bitter about going, buying a present, and likely posting a thread afterwards discussing how ungrateful the lady was. (Which may or may not be the truth).
15-11-2014 19:02 #38
15-11-2014 19:52 #39
I also kept all my cards from our engagement, wedding, when we lost our daughter and when we had DS . I love getting and sending cards, it's sad that it happens less and less now @NoteToSelf.
I liked what somebody said on the other thread, that there are so many reasons why somebody does something the way they do and 99% of the time they aren't being rude or horrible. Life gets in the way sometimes. I have a few unwritten cards sitting on a shelf that I bought for people ages ago but keep forgetting to write in them. I also have two cards I wrote in a couple weeks ago but keep forgetting to get stamps. And don't get me started on the 50 thank yous/baby announcements I had made months ago and still haven't written and sent off! Not one card am I trying to be rude, selfish or ungrateful. I haven't slept more than a two hour block for months and my brain is fried, my memory is non-existent. Perhaps I should take this moment now!
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