I have just received a save the date for a baby shower which is to be held next year...the pregnant person is 15 and a half weeks....
I have two kids myself and never had a baby shower for either.
The person is a family friends wife who I haven't really had all that much to do with...
They have not given us gifts or cards when either of our kids were born...
I am expecting that this will probably be a gift registry.
For their wedding it was required that you pay for your own meal and drinks package (which was $250 per person on an international island, so we declined that offer)
They had a wishing well for their engagement party too and we had to pay for our own drinks. They provided light snacks (sausage rolls and party pies)
What would your thoughts be on giving them a gift?
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14-11-2014 13:52 #1
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14-11-2014 13:58 #2
If you don't want to give a gift or are not that close to them then decline the invite , I've declined many invitations that I didn't want to go to or was not particularly close to but if you do go then yes I think it's best to bring a gift and enjoy the day as there would be nothing worse for me inviting people to a function who didn't really want to be there
14-11-2014 14:00 #3
Personally if it's a gift registry and you feel obliged to get something I would get the cheapest thing there. It's possible she's only inviting you to get gifts! Or if your not that close you could decline. I think it would be easier to decline closer to the date 'oh no DS/DD is unwell I have to be there for them'. Seems a bit slack but if there is going to be heaps of people there she won't even notice
14-11-2014 14:10 #4
I can almost guarantee she is only inviting me for the gifts!
Her Hens night was $150 to cover drinks a meal, club entry and entertainment (so I am guessing a stripper) I was pregnant at the time so didn't go as didn't want to spend that money on clubbing and drinks...
Then there was an additional $100 for accommodation too!
14-11-2014 14:46 #5
If you don't want to go, then don't and don't buy a gift.
14-11-2014 14:51 #6
Yeah, I'd be inclined to wait until you get the invite and then politely decline. just say "thanks for your kind invite, however unfortunately I'm unable to attend. I hope you have a lovely day". You don't have to explain any further.
14-11-2014 15:00 #7
Thinking that declining the invite when it comes might be the best option for me 😳😳😳
Thanks for your help 😃😃😃
14-11-2014 16:26 #8Senior Member
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honestly I wouldn't even go.. I'd make an excuse. they always seem to expect people to cough up $$$ for their do's but you have a baby and not even a card?? it's a no brainer for me.
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14-11-2014 17:01 #9
I wouldn't go if you aren't close or good friends.
One of my good friends had an engagement party, a $95 a head hens party, is about to have a kitchen tea plus a wedding.
It could be a money or present grab, we only had a wedding a cheap hens, no engagement or kitchen tea and only had a baby shower for my first born. I don't believe in too many parties like this if all for the one person, I find it greedy, so don't go, it seems like a pattern for this person.
14-11-2014 17:08 #10
I would decline the invite when it arrives. All signs point to a gift grab!
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