Help 7yr old girls behaviour!

[kazzamat]

Yep, sure did. My son was never as bad as my daughter thank goodness. She used to kick the walls so hard I thought she would put holes in them! (I can't remember her ever kicking the windows though)
I also just remembered something that happened for me. Once when my daughter was acting up, I went and sat in her room next to her and cried. Tears ********* down my face. Little miss asked me why I was crying, and I explained that everytime she acted like this, it hurt my heart. It seemed to change her attitude from angry to sad...and I would go and give her a big hug and all would be good again?!?! (Never can tell what emotion I get from her) Now, sometimes if she starts to act up, I tell her to remember about my heart and how much it hurts when she is like that...and it changed her attitude pretty quick. Maybe something that you could try??

[RipperRita]

What about giving yourself time out when you think your going to lose it? Lock yourself in the bathroom and have a long shower where you can't hear her screaming for 20 mins... Pull yourself together then go and try again when your calmer and more controlled... My kids are a lot younger than yours but when I feel myself starting to lose it, this helps me.

[mimi1991]

Thanks, I am positive I'm going to be able to make a change she might need to be a calmer parent I just really hate being this horrible mum! Today I just held her door shut and said I won't have you talk to me like that and won't have bad behaviour in the house, so we didn't have as half of a bad day as normal, I want to be more positive so I've been trying to reinforce positivity towards her (gee you look beautiful) (I love you) etc etc just more positive which I guess I've struggled with as it's been so negative and I loose it she looses it and it's just a never win win! If anyone has any other suggestions on ways to deal with bad behaviour I'd love to hear them too thankyou! I have a 1yr old and 4yr old so I still have to be able to look after them also

[Freyamum]

This is an old thread but I wonder how things are now? Did you find a technique that works? Some of what you describe is so close to what I sometimes experience with my dd age 8. It's the challenge of knowing what to do during the blow ups that I struggle with, the actual practicalities.
I have no answers but if you are still having issues we could trade stories?