When I'm out with one of my girlfriends they always say how much DS looks like her thinking she is the mum. DS is a pale blue eyed lightish hair baby and I'm dark hair, dark eyes, olive skin. Nothing like me at all
ETA "they" being strangers
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13-11-2014 09:56 #11
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13-11-2014 10:06 #12
If I were in your shoes I would do the DNA test. The constant wondering and worrying from not knowing and all commets from people would drive me crazy and possibly results in feelings of resentment.
13-11-2014 10:10 #13-
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I read a cpl of books about an embryo mix up...one book was from the Savage family who was impregnated with another womans embryo and the second book was from the Morell family who the embryo belonged to.
13-11-2014 10:12 #14
Oh yes, the medical reason was the first concern, but after thinking about it, how on earth can we find out what his background is if he isn't ours genetically? Is there a way to test ethnicity? Sounds ridiculous as everyone is supposed to know what their ethnicity is.
I love him sooooo much, and he is super bloody cute, I just don't think he gets it from me & my pastyness. Lol.
13-11-2014 10:14 #15
I'll have to look up those books
13-11-2014 10:18 #16
Also the concern is if the embryo did belong to someone else who had been unsuccessful with IVF would they then try to claim your child as theirs? Lots of things to think about.
13-11-2014 10:24 #17
That is our nightmare, but it would be very hard to track down genetic ownership of embryo. Then what about our 9 frosties in storage, that we pay $250 every 6months...are they ours? Can we test if they are ours at all?
13-11-2014 10:28 #18
It can happen. It's a workplace and people make mistakes. You need to ask yourself how you would feel about giving the baby back to its mother and father if you found out it wasn't yours or how you would feel about shared care if the wrong sperm was used. Lots and lots to consider before you go down the path of DNA testing. Was it a FET or fresh transfer?
13-11-2014 10:30 #19
Don't do it. You can't "unknow". If it's not yours you either have to never tell anyone or tell the clinic and risk a custody battle. There has never been a case tried like that in Australia and the outcome is not assured. A couple in America who had one black and one white twin after a mix up had to give the black baby back.
In regards to law suit there would be no money in it as you aren't "injured", you just have the wrong baby. He's ok and you're ok. I know that's not right. It's just the way it is. And you would be stuffed around by horrible lawyers.
Mistakes do happen. They shouldn't, but they do. But you want to be really really sure you want to know the answer before you ask the question as the repercussions are huge for your family.
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13-11-2014 10:38 #20
DS is an IVF baby, I often wondered what the chances were of a mix up at the clinic while we were going through the process. They are pretty thorough though, we verified identity at every step (checking labels on the embryo dish etc and watching on a screen as they removed the embryo and brought it in for transfer). I guess there's always a very small chance if could happen though. I honestly don't know if I'd want to know, if I carried and birthed a baby I imagine it would be very hard to ever think of that baby as anything other than 100% my child.
In our case there is no mistaking DS as our baby, he looks like a clone of his big sister who was conceived naturally. Both my babies are olive skinned, it comes from my mothers side. When DD was a little baby she was darker than another baby who's mother was African!
My brother looks nothing like either of my parents. It happens sometimes. Maybe look further back in your family tree and see if you can recognise any traits in your DS.
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