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To what extent do you expect overnight guests to help out?
I am thinking of a specific scenario detailed below, but feel free to digress.
Scenario: Parents staying for 4 nights. Parents are getting old (60's) so can't run a marathon but aren't disabled either. In the house: toddler, baby, hubby and wife.
I won't tell you where I stand yet as I don't want to influence people... I am trying to work out whether my expectations are abnormal/fair...
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06-11-2014 19:52 #1-
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50 cents: guests helping out
Last edited by VicPark; 06-11-2014 at 19:56.
06-11-2014 19:54 #2
I don't expect guests to do anything really, other than basic tidying up after themselves (e.g. Dishes on the sink when they've finished etc). Whenever my Mum stays we don't expect her to do anything, but she usually stays as a favour to us for babysitting/ easier to get to a conference.
06-11-2014 19:54 #3
When my parents stay they cook for us. My mum also helps me with DD. She will often help with the dishes and the washing too. I don't expect them to help out but it's very appreciated.
06-11-2014 19:56 #4
I don't expect them to do much at all.
When my ILs or my dad stay I expect them to relax, play with the kids and enjoy themselves.
06-11-2014 19:56 #5
I would just expect them to clean up after themselves. Put their dishes in the sink, maybe wash or dry a load or two. Hang up their bathroom towel, leave the bathroom clean (no water on floor). Maybe offer to cook dinner one night. Strip the bed the day the were leaving.
Nothing more than common courtesy I guess
06-11-2014 19:56 #6
Help wash and wipe up. If they're around for a while - show them where everything is to make their own breakfast, teas, coffees. Help out with getting lunch and dinner sorted - either cooking, preparing, setting table, sweeping under table afterwards.
If the guests were coming for dinner only I would expect nothing. Even just for a night I would expect nothing, but for an extended period of time I would expect basics as above. My parents came after I had an e-cs once and did nothing except hold baby a couple of times in the 1.5 weeks they were here. No cooking, cleaning, vacuuming, washing up - nothing. They were essentially another two people to look after at that time.
Last edited by Little Ted; 06-11-2014 at 20:00.
06-11-2014 19:58 #7
Immediate family - yes I expect a bit of help! But that's pretty standard in my family. Friends/more distant relo's, no. Helping with dishes and tidying up after themselves is what I'd expect from them.
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06-11-2014 20:01 #8
The very rare times my dads parents visit they do absolutely everything because to them they are here to give dh and I break and they wont take no for an answer.
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06-11-2014 20:02 #9
I wouldn't expect anything , but my mum washes up, does the washing , folds it and plays with DS every Thursday arvo when she minds him !
Whenever my brother and SIL or aunt and uncle stay they always offer to do things but I prefer they just relax and hang out with DS, SIL always washes up
06-11-2014 20:06 #10Senior Member
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This is quite a regular scenario at my place as both my parents and the IL's live interstate and come to stay from time to time.
The IL's entertain the kids, MIL will bath, read bedtime stories and put kids to bed. They will often get washing off the line and generally clean up after themselves. They also will take kids out to the park.
My parents also play with the kids, cook a meal or two, help in the garden, my mum I usually get to do some sewing for me, also will do the washing and wash dishes.
All these things without really being asked, and would do more if I asked.
I guess it's not that it is expected of them, except it kind of is now, because that's what they do, and I think they like to feel useful
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