I got engaged a few weeks ago. Yay! We are already thinking about the wedding and how we'd like it. We'd like a wedding with just our family, which would actually be 30-34 guests including kids. We want a small wedding.
I have a huge group of friends but have really grown apart from them in the last 2 years. They are a great group of people but I don't really connect with them anymore (since being a mum, I have made new closer friends). Problem is, I have been to their weddings (the older friends) so I feel rude not inviting them to our wedding.
One of my close friends is in that group though and I do feel bad not inviting her.
Do you think this is rude or should we have what we want?
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04-11-2014 21:47 #1
Family only wedding. Rude?
04-11-2014 21:53 #2Junior Member
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I think it's your wedding and you do what you want to do. I felt the same, I was like well if I invite them then I have to invite them. But in the end our wedding was mostly family with only a few friends and it was an amazing day. Congrats on the engagement. And do what you want to do it's about the 2 of you no one else. X
04-11-2014 21:54 #3
It's your wedding. Do what you want! It's your special day. You shouldn't be inviting people just to please them.
04-11-2014 22:04 #4-
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Your wedding, your choice
(all the friends who came to our wedding aren't even in our life anymore)
04-11-2014 22:04 #5
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04-11-2014 22:11 #6
I agree, your wedding, your "rules".
Just be ready that it might ruffle some feathers in your old group of friends. Some people might hold a grudge over something like this... But it sounds like you have already moved a fair bit away from the friendship.
04-11-2014 22:11 #7
I always think - have the wedding you want and can afford. If that's family only, go right ahead!
Not tacky or rude at all !
04-11-2014 22:16 #8
Invite only those who have made an effort to be a part of your life in recent times and who deserve to witness your special day and don't give it a second thought.
I excluded two closely related family members from DD's 1st birthday party because they had not visited once since I'd had her and not even laid eyes on her. We live in the same suburb and I'd sent them pictures and news of her birth but they never bothered to visit or meet her. I don't regret it. And they were actually offended and puzzled as to why the entire family attended bar them. Well... duh.
Me 32, He 35, DS 14, DD 2
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04-11-2014 22:19 #9
One of my friends had a family only wedding. This was in amongst our whole group of friends getting married over about 3 years. They came to all of our weddings and none of us thought they were rude for having family only. We would have been offended though if she had invited a few friends but not others. While a few of us were sad that we didn't get to share her special day we understood and never thought any differently of her.
05-11-2014 06:17 #10
Not rude at all. Your wedding, your choice. If you're having the ceremony in a public space (park, church etc) let your friends know that they're welcome to come to the ceremony (if you're happy for that) but that the reception is family only. That way your friends get a glimpse of you in your wedding finery and feel part of your day without it actually costing you anything.
If you're having it in a private space (family backyard etc) and your friends asked you about it just explain its a space/logistics issue so it's family only. I'm sure they won't mind good luck.
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