Ladies, I have a question that I am struggling with - public or private?!
I had every intention to go private. Have top private health cover, booked into an OB and hospital, and while the fees are high, we can afford it.
But in the past week, I've really started to wonder why on earth I'm about to pay 6+k to someone when 1) I have no known complications, 2) I don't really want to stay in a hospital / hotel for 5 days after delivery, and 3) I can think of MUCH better ways to spend that money. Like on a mid-wife who will come visit us at home.
Part of me feels guilty since we can afford it, but the other hears my mom (an labour and delivery nurse for 30 years) asking what on earth I'm doing.
Anyone have any thoughts? We are in Melbourne's inner east.
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21-12-2014 10:35 #253
Thanks @leyshoja - that backs up my gut feel and informal research. Unless medically required, seems like such a waste of money.
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21-12-2014 11:17 #254
IVF Babies due July/August/September 2015!
Hiya ladies, I'm just hanging in the background for a bit longer as this is my 5th pregnancy this year, I'll hope for the best and see how we go
@lileitak - I totally see why you're thinking about it. Have you been paying for private health for a while though? Would it be a waste not to use it now? Or still way cheaper to swap to public? What's hard for me is that we have a brand new local public hospital which is really nice and maternity even has it's own single rooms with just shared bathrooms! I have some midwife friends there who rave about the place too.
One thing though....would you want your DH to stay with you though? With my dd I ended up having to have an emergency c-sec (waters broken for too long with no dilation) and I was soooo soooo great-full to have my DH there to help me out as as much as the midwives were awesome, they are busy and can't be with you 24/7. One thing that happened that still brings dread to my belly to this day....my dd was wrapped snug-as-a-bug on her back in her hospital cot next to me a few hours after she was born and DH and I were having a snooze when I happened to wake up for a moment and just as I looked over to her, she did a completely silent big, phlegmy vomit straight up into the air and it came back down and covered her mouth and nose and was so phlegmy that she started choking on it!!! I was still unable to move anything apart from my arms so I couldn't help her properly and started yelling at my DH who flew up from his fold-out couch and wiped it all away while rolling her on her side. I had pressed the nurse-call button at the same time as yelling at DH and the nurses didn't come until after DH had well and truly cleaned her up already. I couldn't reach the emergency button as that's on the wall.....just the normal nurse-call button on a lead by my bed. Very very scary
These kids are gonna make us all go grey early for sure!
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22-12-2014 15:25 #255
Had my scan today (13w1d) :
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Little poppet is giving us a wave!
90% chance it's a girl!! Yay so excited.
Sorry I haven't been on BH for awhile the ms has been wearing me down. I'll pop back for personals later
22-12-2014 20:06 #256Member
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Congrats @Ladydee! Hope bub is a sticky one & ur here for the whole time! @akakura cute pic!! That's awesome to see, so exciting! Has ur ms eased off at all? @lileitak we're going private. Went private with ds. We had no known complications but I'd paid for it, preferred the same Dr & midwife for all my antenatal appt & honestly the thought of sharing a room & bathroom was a major turn off! In the end was the best decision ever. I had a hard time delivering ds & had a lot of 'damage'. Ended up staying longer than usual stay & couldn't walk for a while so needed dh there to help. Even needed him to help me in the bathroom so was better not sharing! Also now with this bub I have same Dr who knows my history & we can plan in advance.
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22-12-2014 21:56 #258
IVF Babies due July/August/September 2015!
Thanks for all the input. I think we've decided to remain private, but go with an also recommended but 2/3 cost OB.
This way I get the private room, haven't "wasted" all that money I paid into private health and feel less ripped off.
If all goes well for this, I'll be much more open to public should we be lucky enough to have a second. Because it's my first, I'm erring on the side of caution.
22-12-2014 22:21 #259Senior Member
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Hello everyone, I got my first ever BFP on Friday (15dpo) with Hcg of 155, but waited until today (18dpo) with Hcg of 780, to actually come and join a due date group :-))
I will go back and read this entire thread from beginning to end, as though I know everything about IVF and TTC, I know absolutely nothing about being pregnant, as I felt it was bad karma to look those kind of things up before getting a BFP. Considering the bad luck I've had for three years of IVF, it really wouldn't have mattered!! But now a new corner has turned.
I asked the nurse today, what I needed to do next, expecting there to be some book or pamphlet, but all she said was you have to choose whether you're going to go private or public!! Fat lot of help that was, so I'm rather pleased that you ladies are already discussing this.
My FS says he doesn't want to see me back until the heartbeat scan in 2-3 weeks. I kind of agreed, but now beginning to wonder if I'm going to stay sane and hold out for that length of time. If I POAS every couple of days, will that give me the knowledge that I'm still pregnant, or should I push for another BT in a week?
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23-12-2014 13:22 #260
@MGC Bertie congratulations on your BFP. This my first pregnancy too, so I too have alot to learn. Did you naturally conceive or IVF? The blood test will tell you if your hcg is rising or not, maybe peace of mind. However if it's not heading in the right direction there isn't anything they can do, you just have to wait it out. Saying that I am on progesterone support and for the first few weeks my level was low, which increases ur chance of miscarriage. Knowing my level was low my doctor was able to increase my progesterone pessaries and correct my levels. I have also had friends that have been put on progesterone because they have had a miscarriage in the past. They didnt have any assisted fertilisation, so it can defiantly support/ decrease ur chance of miscarriage if the detect it low and treat it. I'm only new to all of this but it might be worth asking for a progesterone level to see if it's normal. Hope it's a sticky one for you xx
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