Just looking for opinions (dangerous I know)
If you have a birthday present for your child do you open the presents when the person can see or do you just leave it for later?
I went to a birthday party recently and the host just told us where to put the presents, since then there has been zero acknowledgement of any gifts. Am I over reacting or is this rude?
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31-10-2014 00:26 #1
31-10-2014 00:40 #2Senior Member
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Well.... if you've ever had a child open a present infront of the giver and openly state they don't like it, or it's the wrong one, or simply glance at it and toss it aside disinterestedly, or have the present lost in the chaos of a party, or have the other party kids fight over who gets a turn next, or have another kid accidently break the present.... then you'd probably know why parents chose to have their child open presents after the party.
It also gives parents the chance to orderly write down who got what, in preparation for writing thankyou cards. Which, to reply to the other statement in your OP, sometimes (often) these thankyou cards just get forgotten in the hectic life of a parent.
31-10-2014 00:51 #3
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31-10-2014 00:59 #4
If it was given to me one on one, like meeting up for a play date, I would open it in front of them. If it was a birthday party, I'd probably wait to open gifts and then do thank you cards later. That said, I'm running very behind on the thank yous for all the gifts we received when DS was born!
As a child, I always remember kids opening their presents in front of everyone at the party but maybe that's more of an American thing?
31-10-2014 01:02 #5
I suspect you misread the comment?
Anyway, I kind of agree with you- I like to see people open presents in front of one another. But people are all different and there are likely a hundred different, good, and not-really-worth-getting-upset -about reasons people do things the way they do! It's really not worth wasting too much time thinking about! Is it rude? No. Just not what you (or I for that matter) would do.
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31-10-2014 06:46 #6
Most of the kids parties I have been to, the presents don't get opened at the party. When dd has her party I won't be opening until we get home. We are having the party at a play centre and I don't want the mess of wrapping paper going everywhere and then presents potentially getting lost.
31-10-2014 06:58 #7
Definitely wouldn't open presents until people had gone home but always send a thank you within a few days.
31-10-2014 07:09 #8
Whilst it is frustrating not to receive acknowledgement I can understand why people would wait for the reasons mentioned above (I don't think pp was trying to be rude just listing her reasons for why it happens). I went to a party where the birthday girl opened her presents and it was chaos. Other kids getting jealous and snatching at toys, cards not staying with the present so no way to remember who gave what.... Since then I know if I have a party I will open later!
I agree no thank you or acknowledgement later is a bit rude but unfortunately it happens.
31-10-2014 07:34 #9
I am old fashioned. I do think it rude not open gifts. I understand why parents do it. I still believe it is rude. But on the scale of things it don't that big of deal.
31-10-2014 07:41 #10
We still open every gift in front of the person who gave it.
It's not hard. It require two adults, one helping the child and the other writing down the gifts (for the thank you cards) and putting them in the large zipped bags or boxes to be taken to the car after it all done. No pkts opened at the party so nothing to lose.
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