I am sorry you are experiencing this. It is absoloutely not ok to be treated that way and is so disrespectful. I would not put up with being treated like a door mat. Sounds like he needs to get into the 21st century - and on your team. If he doesn't, I'd be seriously considering kicking his @ss to the kerb. You deserve much better and your dd deserves a better role model of a father than that. hugs x
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30-10-2014 12:04 #11Senior Member
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30-10-2014 12:04 #12
In all honesty i could never ever tolerate being treated that way.
You deserve so much better.
30-10-2014 12:04 #13
Wow. Reading your post made me feel so strongly for you. Your husband is not acting the way a caring, loving partner should. He does realize that your daughter is his responsibility also?
My DP cares for DD as often as I do. She studies full time at uni and has a congenital heart condition that is classified as a long-term disability. I do most of the housework but she does chores that I don't, like cooking dinners, doing the dishes, feeding animals, making the bed, groceries and tidying up after herself and DD. She will do any job that I ask her to like vacuuming or sweeping but won't unless asked to.
She drives an hour to and from uni and almost daily takes DD from me so that I can have a rest, go to the gym or watch tv. She showers DD and makes dinner and if I'm having a tough time she will put DD to bed.
She NEVER asks how much I've done because she knows that looking after the baby is a full time job that consumes every minute of every day. She considers herself lucky if I get a MOMENT to mop the floors. She would rather I spent the day with DD not cleaning.
It drives me CRAZY when people say that your period and hormones are the things making you cranky - it couldn't possibly be their rude and oblivious behaviour!?
It sounds like you are doing more than an incredible job! You are a stay at home mum finding time to clean, look after animals, cook dinners AND do the accounts! Yes, a full time job is really hard but at least he can leave work at work. It's not like you get any time off! You're all call all day and night.
30-10-2014 12:07 #14Senior Member
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I would leave now while its just aggression your dealing with. Its no good for your dd to see you being treated like that. He is so ungrateful. When u leave he will realise how u did everything for him and maybe give him a wakeup call
30-10-2014 12:11 #15
Too much time, effort and money have done into it, if I walk this week he out of spite would cancel the party.
He totally hates his job with a passion. Which I think is why he is so cranky but he has no skills for anything else and makes a decent wage from it.
If he was to do other work we probably couldn't afford to make ends meet.
30-10-2014 12:15 #16
Totally unacceptable you do more in one day than I do in 3 and my hubby never questions if I bludged the day away.
Maybe have a proper chat and let him know you are feeling belittled and put down. That you are not going to speak that way or let your daughter grow up thinking it's ok to e spoken to that way.
If he does it again then I would leave for a few days to let him know you are serious.
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30-10-2014 12:16 #17
Hating his job is no excuse for the way he speaks and treats you.
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