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    Carpe firm, saying you're too weak emotionally to have anymore children shows me that you have incredible strength. Strength not to cave in to what others want, strength to be true to yourself.

    I suffered terribly with PND after my first, and swore I would never have any more children. It was very hard to be open & honest with DH as he wanted a big family. I gave him the choice to choose life with someone who could give him that. He chose me & our DS. We are all he ever wanted and although it was different from our "plans" he didn't want me to go through any further emotional pain.

    You're husband may want more children but I can almost guarantee you he won't want more children at the cost of your health.

    Be kind to yourself. Give yourself & your husband time to get accustomed to 3 is your family.

    As luck has it, once I removed the pressure from myself of having anymore, I felt so much better. We ended up having a second DS & I didn't get PND, it was perfect.

    You & hubby decide your family & don't feel guilty because your fertile & choose not to have anymore children.

    Chin up. You will see the light & these dark days will end xxx

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    Please talk your gp. I was in denial about post natal depression and went to Dr for a hormone test because I thought there was some other medical problem. Perhaps because I could accept it easier and thought other people would too. And while he did give me a full blood test he also sent me to a psychologist who has helped immensely. My bloods came back fine but the psychologist recognised a few areas I needed help with.
    Please do what you need to feel better

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    Im in a bad bad way. I don't know what to do. I've not harmed myself but I'm fighting some pretty intense urges. Dd is safe

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    131114 please call lifeline... or 000 if its an emergency and u or dd r in danger.

    There are people to talk to and help

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    I was feeling like that a few weeks ago. For the first time ever instead of hiding everything and trying to deal by myself I spoke to dh. I freaked him out but now I am getting help. Feel free to pm me, I am here all noght

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    000 or your local cat team if need be. Great big hugs. Don't deal with this alone

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