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    In your situation I would be very hurt and upset and I would call him on it.

    In my situation - wouldn't care cause I don't want to spend xmas with my dad anyway!

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    Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your feedback.

    I'm very hurt by it (the little girl in me wants to cry but I'm heartbroken for my babies) but I'm worried I will be told I am childish and selfish if I voice it to dad. Mum gets it and understands, she's not happy about missing the day with her grandchildren.

    What should I say when he tells me he has changed his plans?

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    Can you organise to do lunch with him and he can do dinner with the uncle?

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    Quote Originally Posted by crankyoldcow View Post
    Telling him how feel is standing up for yourself. It is not childish and selfish to tell your father how hurt you are.

    I would be gutted if my parents did that to me.
    I agree in fact I would say it is mature thing to do.

    Just tell him straight.

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    I would be straight with him and so should your mother.

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    I'm fairly certain my dad would have planned picking up his friend at around 10-11am and having a drinking session all day. I don't think dad will want to do lunch with us then dinner with his friend but I can bring up that option I suppose.

    Im also pretty certain my dad will get cranky at me questioning his decision and will just state that his friend is getting old etc and play a guilt trip on me.

    I kind of want to ask my mum if she will come to our place and have lunch with us but I think she'll say no as my dad will expect her to cook and drive his friend home. I also don't want her to be put in an awkward situation where she'd have to chose me or my dad. I would want to ask my brother if he wants to have lunch at ours but I also don't want him to have to choose.


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    Quote Originally Posted by My Beloved Ones View Post
    I'm fairly certain my dad would have planned picking up his friend at around 10-11am and having a drinking session all day. I don't think dad will want to do lunch with us then dinner with his friend but I can bring up that option I suppose.

    Im also pretty certain my dad will get cranky at me questioning his decision and will just state that his friend is getting old etc and play a guilt trip on me.

    I kind of want to ask my mum if she will come to our place and have lunch with us but I think she'll say no as my dad will expect her to cook and drive his friend home. I also don't want her to be put in an awkward situation where she'd have to chose me or my dad. I would want to ask my brother if he wants to have lunch at ours but I also don't want him to have to choose.

    I am sure your mother would much rather spend the day with you and your babies than driving old men around while they drank!

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    He can't put a guilt trip on you. He is the one in the wrong.
    Don't let him put it on you. Tell him you are hus child your children are his grandchildren and you should come first.
    Put it back on him.
    Are you having a family day or not. If not than you will invite the family over to your place. Christmas is about family.

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    What about a breakfast? We did breakfast with one side of the family and dinner with the other when I was a kid.

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    TBH I would be annoyed at both parents. I would expect my mum to tell my dad how important it is to spend Christmas with the family and tell him to pull his head in. If this 'uncle' is all alone then of course he could be invited to join ALL of you, with a clear understanding that he is expected to be polite.

    Failing that, I would point out to my dad that he needn't think he'll be invited to Christmas with me again, when dear old uncle passes away he will find himself alone.

    Not mature I know, but I would be having a tanty!

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