Thanks ladies.
While I'll just clarify, the only reason he is hesitant to put her into care is not that he has anything about other people looking after her. He is just not wanting all the sickness that comes along with when they first go in.
My girlfriends LO has been so sick since starting care. My friend herself even ended up with HFM and as he works for himself he doesn't want her and then us getting sick.
I'm gonna stand firm, we only discussed it a month ago. I don't even know if I could just waltz back into work and rearrange my plans anyway.