I'm 34 weeks pregnant. I dated a guy for 3 months and fell pregnant. He was abusive of me and I left him months ago. I have since got a DVO against him. I am not putting him on the BC as I don't want to make it easy for him to get visitation. My daughter will know who he is, I just believe he doesn't care and just thinks it's a big fun game to look cool with his mates. However in order to make it difficult I will need to lie and say I don't know who he is so he will have to pay for a paternity test and then start proceedings. I just want to know what I'm getting myself into before I dive into this mess.
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14-10-2014 00:03 #1
No father on Birth certificate, legal implications
14-10-2014 06:40 #2
Sorry I'm not sure but I'm also curious as my friend who is about due has left her husband due to him indecently touching a child. You think you know someone huh
14-10-2014 07:21 #3
From a purely legal standpoint I'd be very wary if you are sure he is the father.
The courts can, and likely will order a paternity test. Generally both parties pay half each for the test. If he is successful in his application you may also have to pay some of his legal fees. The courts don't generally make costs orders in family matters but it is a possibility you should consider.
If you knowingly lie and don't put him on the birth certificate it may come back to bite you down the track. For one, it may on face value affect your credibility. That's almost impossible to reestablish when it's gone.
If you are concerned about your baby's safety with your ex there are other mechanisms in place to address such concerns.
14-10-2014 09:02 #4
I'll do anything to keep him away. Thanks ill look into it further. I just want to do what's best.
14-10-2014 09:05 #5
I didn't put my sons father on the birth certificate, I didn't have to lie about it either, I simply left that section blank, and no questions were asked. The father has to sign the certificate as well if his name is on it, and at that time FOB didn't want to be put on it.
14-10-2014 09:07 #6
I've claimed child support since then also, his father just had to write a stat dec stating that he is his father. I've had no legal ramifications from his father not being on his birth certificate despite him being listed with CSA and Centrelink as his father.
14-10-2014 09:33 #7
What ElectricPink said.
It was the same for me.
14-10-2014 09:48 #8
You won't get some benefits from Centrelink unless you name a father or fill out a stat dec stating you don't know who he is.
14-10-2014 09:56 #9
14-10-2014 10:02 #10
OP, your best plan of action would probably be to simply leave the fathers section blank on BC, and make an appointment with a Centrelink social worker in regards to an exemption for claiming child support. You don't have to lie about not knowing who the father is, just explain that you have safety concerns and are no longer in contact with him (if that is the case).
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