As mentioned you haven't stated the disability so this may not apply. But my son is a very picky eater and I dreaded day care meals an hated seeing the board ticked 'some' which basically meant he ate none.
Over a few months though since he has learnt that there is nothing else... He has learnt to eat it... Now I see 'all' ticked and the day care staff are wide eyed with what he ate. I now have the opposite effect as my son is a really picky eater for dinner and knows I will offer fruit and yoghurt if he doesn't eat it. He actually hands it back to me and says 'yoghurt please'
It's one meal and he won't starve to death not eating it. Personally I didn't expect his daycare to offer an alternative and I agree all the kids may want what the alternative is, plus I don't think it sends the right message to the kids.
If your really not comfortable then maybe it is worth looking into daycare options where you bring your own food...
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15-10-2014 06:36 #41
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15-10-2014 06:43 #42
I had same issue well similar.
My dd didn't eat puree only blw 'they wouldn't do that'. Even though on interview they said it's fine. They let her starve.
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15-10-2014 07:16 #43
So based on your recent post I think you definitely need to put in writing to the Centre about the situation and perhaps start looking for a new child care?
I don't think he's being discriminated against. It sounds like one of two things. ..1) they don't really understand ASD and therefore aren't trying to encourage the eating or 2) they're not a great Centre and lazy when it comes to special needs kids.
Either way. .. It's not good. Perhaps when you write you could encourage them to get some professional development in understanding kids with ASD.
Plus it could be a range of things. .. From the food they prepare to eating in an unfamiliar environment. Often kids don't eat at daycare because it's not a predictable environment like it is at home. ... which can be anxiety causing. But I'm guessing you know all this.
I hope you can resolve the issue. And perhaps look into funding to have an extra carer. In my experience some day cares will go above and beyond with children who have special needs. .. And others don't. My DD's Centre always go the extra mile with my daughter. But I know others in my area really weren't interested in getting funding or supporting us with her needs. I hope you can sort it out.
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15-10-2014 07:19 #44
As a early learning centre director I ensure that all children are offered food. We have a number of children with Allergies, food aversions and disabilities all are met with food/meals they will eat. Open communication with parents all the time allows us to ensure our menu is flexible and caters for all. As mentioned we have standards both through the National Quality Framework, National Regulations and Law. We also have Council requirements to ensure health and safety regulations are met. Centres are required to provide a menu which provides 50% of a children daily intake across the food groups.
Over the years we have learnt more and more about children with disabilities and how this affects their eating habits. We provide deconstructed meals that are the same/similar to what the other children are having.
In terms of the centre being short staffed they have access to inclusion support if your child has a formal diagnosis. You are within your right to request that they start the process to gain this extra support. It is of no cost to them and will benefit not only your child but the whole group of children. It makes me sad that Directors aren't accessing this support for children as too many children with disabilities are being excluded because there is 'short staffing' when there doesn't need to be. We are going backwards and the attitude is fast becoming that children with disability should not be in main****** centres/schools. I'm seeing it first hand in the attitudes of some of my parents at my service 😞.
I really hope you can talk to someone in management soon, alternatively you can contact the department of education and make a parent complaint this will be sent to their upper management/owner and then will be dealt with immediately.
I'm sorry for your experience.
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15-10-2014 07:31 #46
I have been providing an extra carer in the preschool room for the last 16months without any funding as I knew it was necessary to support ALL the children in the room not only the children with higher needs.
I really hope the next generations are more accepting.
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15-10-2014 07:44 #50
Mrs Tickle your update made me so sad! Your poor little guy It sounds like such a distressing situation for you both.
My DS is a fussy eater and needs a lot of encouragement to try new things, so I was worried about him starting daycare. So on the days he went I would load him up with as much food as he would eat in the morning before we left. Most days he would still come home hungry and thirsty though, no matter how many times I talked to them about it...I even provided his own sippy cup and it would come home untouched We've ended up taking him out of daycare altogether for different reasons (constant illness).
If it were me I would probably try to find another daycare, I just wouldn't trust that the current centre would look after him properly as they seem to have lumped him in the 'too hard basket'. Is finding another centre an option?
I'd still put in a written complaint to the current one though! Especially outlining his behaviour once you get home and what your Dr said.
Best of luck & big hugs to you and your DS x
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