Unless he has sensory issues that need to be catered for (and in that case I would be sending my own food) then I would probably expect that he eat what is provided (genuine dislikes aside). Do the meals have several components to them so that he may eat one or more components but leave others?
He won't starve from missing one meal.
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13-10-2014 13:15 #12Senior Member
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It was the same at my oldest child's daycare. They ensured the child did not starve all day (ie. gave them extra at afternoon tea etc) but they said kids ended up eating the food after a couple of weeks. I know my oldest ate things at daycare she wouldn't even have tried at home...but she tried them and enjoyed them.
No disabilities though, so if there is a sensory issue then I wouldn't be okay. For my child it was just genuine fussiness.
13-10-2014 13:16 #13
ETA I didn't know this until well into the first year (I happily thought they were eating the food they were offered). The carers used to make sure they ate well at morning and afternoon tea. But my kids were always too busy playing to eat well at day care anyway.
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13-10-2014 13:41 #14
I would honestly pull him out and find another centre (if possible).
My DS has sensory issues and eats very few foods. He is going to preschool next year and thankfully we will be responsible for providing his own food.
Children like my DS won't just eat what is given. They won't just 'get used to it' and start suddenly eating normally like the other kiddies. They will starve themselves before they try new foods.
Is your little guy on the autism spectrum OP?
13-10-2014 14:06 #15
I think it depends on what your son's disability is as other have said. Does he eat morning tea/afternoon tea there at all? Or is he not eating all day?
My (almost 2 year old) son often goes without lunch as he is fussy and won't even try things alot of the time. I don't offer alternatives and he just eats extra at afternoon tea and dinner. I would not have a problem with them not giving an alternative to my kids if they refused lunch every day (if they were eating afternoon tea/dinner). I think they would soon learn to at least try something if they were hungry (disabilities aside).
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13-10-2014 14:22 #16Senior Member
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Our daycare would always have sandwiches or crackers with a side of fruit/cheese for those who didn't eat the hot dish that was being served.
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13-10-2014 14:25 #17
I don't think people can give you their true opinion without knowing whether your child's disability affects his ability to eat certian foods.
13-10-2014 14:36 #18
Without knowing what your son's disability is, it's really difficult to answer this. If it is a diagnosed medical issue that involves genuine sensory issues, then that should be catered for - BUT he should also be given inclusion funding and be given the extra staffing support needed for his additional needs.
I don't believe that the issue is that they are 'starving him' or 'not feeding him' - they ARE feeding him, he is just refusing to eat the food that is offered. Does he refuse all meals, snacks, etc, or just lunch? Will he eat fruit for morning tea, for example? I personally am not a fan of offering alternatives, as kids are pretty quick to get the idea that if I refuse lunch, I get a sandwich instead, so they will refuse a nice healthy lunch every day, and wait for their sandwich to be served to them. I never offer my own children alternatives if they don't eat lunch or dinner - I give them their food, and if they are hungry, they will eat it. If not, they won't eat. I have the least fussy eaters you've ever seen, but they know that they can't refuse dinner and get their second choice. If my kids were at daycare, I wouldn't want them to be offered alternatives to lunch - that would undo all my hard work of raising kids to learn to eat what they're given. I also think it's a big ask to expect the carers to start offering alternatives for every child who doesn't want to eat. The cook works hard to make a nice, healthy chicken and veg casserole or something, and then 20 of the kids refuse, so the daycarers have to make 20 sandwiches? And then 10 of those refuse sandwiches, so they get a bikkie instead? How long will it be until all the kids refuse lunch and the sandwich so that they can all have a bikkie? That's not really practical, or encouraging healthy eating habits.
...mind you, I say all of this based on my own parenting and healthy eating philosophy, and my own experiences working in child care - AND I get that a child with a disability involving sensory issues is completely different, and needs to be catered for accordingly.
13-10-2014 14:48 #19
I have no issue with centres having their own policies and knowing what I know now would always choose somewhere we can send our own food to avoid the problem.
I just strongly disagree with the philosophy that all kids will eventually eat if the food is offered enough times. Or they will eat it if they're hungry. My kids have no sensory issues or disabilities, just strong preferences about what sort of food they really don't like.
It's great that that has worked for your children. My kids do eat a wide variety of food (except for DD2 who is another story). I just adopted a different approach to get them there.
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13-10-2014 14:53 #20
I had the same issue with my DD.. She has asd and will never in a million years eat a Beef and Bean casserole (which they offered and seemed to cook regularly).
Upon enrollment, I did tell them about her issues with food and they said they'd offer a vegemite and cheese sandwich or something plainer if she didn't like the cooked lunch. After bringing my DD home starving most of the time, I pulled her out. Don't like my kids going hungry...
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