have been trying to fall pregnant for 8 months next week is 9! I feel like im doing everything right but nothing is workin. Partner an I have sex every night during ovalation and 2 days before an after the window an then every second every other day. I take multi vitamins we are both very healthy an in the normal weight range an when I went to talk to the doctor about pcos (it runs it the family) they wouldnt tell me anythibg becuase I dont have any symptom s of it an they think im paranoid! U cant go to another doctor as there is only one where I live
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08-10-2014 13:41 #1Junior Member
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ttc feeling like I should give up :(
08-10-2014 13:56 #2
That must be so frustrating! I swear each month feels like a year when you're TTC.
For otherwise healthy/young couples, doctors wouldn't usually run any tests etc. until you've been trying for 12 months. It seems like a long time, and it sucks to be in that position, but the reality is that it can take time.
PCOS is usually diagnosed based on symptoms. Certainly not saying you're paranoid - and I understand why you're concerned - but it would be difficult for a doctor to really look into PCOS without any symptoms. Conclusive diagnosis only really comes from invasive (surgical) investigation anyway.
Has your doctor mentioned when/under what circumstances to come back and look into fertility issues? They should definitely take you seriously if you go back after 12 months of TTC.
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08-10-2014 14:17 #3
It must be very frustratnig for you.
Do you think maybe it could be a sperm issue? In which case, maybe your are dtd too much, reducing the number of quality sperm at the crucial moment? Just an idea.
Good luck, and don't give up. Keep trying, and keep asking doctors for help until someone helps you.
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08-10-2014 14:25 #4
Are you using OPK's? Speak to your doc about getting your partners sperm checked. Usually it's an easier place to start. It's a frustrating time often filled with sadness everytime AF rolls around. I'm sorry your having such a hard time.
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08-10-2014 14:54 #5Junior Member
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Well I dont no becuase my partner has had 2 kids in a previous marriage. It makes me think im the issue:/ what is opk stand for? I am new to this sight so im only learning the language
08-10-2014 15:34 #6
@try18 I know it's hard but try not let it get to you. It took us 8 months to conceive.
I have heard some women can't fall pregnant if they dtd every night. Perhaps dtd every second night. Sperm lives up to 5 days so you don't need to do it every night.
Opk is an ovulation predictor kit. Helps pin point ovulation. You might not be ovulating when you think you are. I was ovulating around cd18 (and af would arrive on cd25). I then had acupuncture done and was taking vitex and vit b6 to help bring forward ovulation. I was taking the vitamins for months so I think it was the acupuncture that did it. It brought ovulation forward by 2 days which allowed me a long enough luteal phase.
Don't give up, it can take a year or more for healthy couples to conceive.
Is there a fertility specialist you can go see?
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08-10-2014 16:23 #7
It took me and hubby 13 months. Both healthy, both taking the vitamins and nothing wrong with us in terms of fertility (we did have checks)
08-10-2014 16:50 #8
If takes the average couple with no underlying issues an average of 6 months to conceive. That basically means that for every couple who conceive first try, another couple take 12 months.
If you have regular cycles and have no other symptoms of PCOS then I can understand why your doctor won't test further for that yet. Even if you did have it, firstly it doesn't automatically have a negative impact on fertility, and secondly treatment is often only of use if the your body doesn't naturally ovulate or only ovulates very sporadically.
How are you working out that you ovulate? OPKs (get cheap ones online), using a basal body thermometer to track your temperatures or monitoring you changes in cervical mucous can all be more accurate than just working out when you should ovulate based on your last period.
I agree with DTD every second day, it gives sperm a chance to mature in between.
08-10-2014 17:33 #9Senior Member
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it took us 2.5 years to conceive.. nothing was wrong with either of us. Has your local hospital got anyone to run any tests?
08-10-2014 18:04 #10
Don't give up!! It took us 3 years to get pregnant. Sounds like you need to see someone about it, a fertility specialist
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