I lost my baby at 16 weeks 3 weeks ago. I basically laboured at home and delivered my baby.
Iam finding it difficult atm getting my head around it. There was nothing wrong with my baby. He was fine. No problems. It was my body that wasn't able to keep him going.
I seen my ob the day it happened she said all was well baby growing accordingly etc. And I was showing signs of placenta previa. (I also had bleeding start from 14 weeks). Basically told go home and rest.
that night my waters broke I had extreme pain that I can refer to like Labour. Then it happened. I lost my baby before my eyes and I couldn't save him as he took his last breath.
Im devastated beyond words can describe.
I find myself searching the net to See if anyone had similar experience.
It feels like a nightmare that I cant wake up from. Repeating over and over in my head.
I don't know if it was because he was perfect and I seen him. I don't know.
I guess writing this I want to know how do you help yourself from these thoughts? ? I know time will heal but I need to hear from someone that has experienced this.
My family is very supportive beyond words can describe and iam very lucky for that.
Sorry for the long post.
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08-10-2014 11:51 #1Junior Member
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baby lost at 16 weeks
08-10-2014 11:55 #2
Oh my gosh my heart broke for you reading that. I've had nothing similar to experience, but I think it's worth going to your GP and seeking counselling. I can imagine along with your profound grief that there's a possibility of PTSD after an experience like that.
Please know that this isn't your fault, and there's nothing you could have done differently or better. I'm so sorry for your loss.
08-10-2014 11:56 #3
my heart goes out to you. there are many mums who have shared this great sadness on this site. perhaps a mod can move your post to the section. I am so sorry for your loss, jacjag09, hugs, marie.
08-10-2014 11:56 #4
I just wanted to comment and give you virtual hugs. What a terrible thing to happen. There is a great network here and plenty of supportive members and we are all here for you.
Sorry for your loss xx
08-10-2014 12:02 #5
Unfortunately I was in your situation 2.5 years ago and it was also quite a traumatic thing to go through. I knew I was bleeding heavily and because I was out at the time, didn't realise that I'd also passed my baby as I was haemorraging at the same time. I never got to see our baby.
I would recommend counselling. I haven't been yet, but I need to. Such loss (and ongoing losses after this) left me with PND and anxiety issues that are ongoing.
I would also recommend full bloods to see if there are any other reasons why your body did what it did. For me, my immune system was suppressing and rejecting each baby.
Big hugs, I know what you're going through,
08-10-2014 12:13 #6
Big hugs... That is traumatic and a half!
Get yourself some professional support so that you can unpack all of your hurt. In your own time and safe place. That intense heartache pain that you are feeling says how much you loved your little belly baby. You will always be a mumma to them, that feeling will stay with you forever, the pain evolves but it is the here and now of looking after you that needs to be happening.
Be kind to yourself.
08-10-2014 14:18 #7
Pregnancy Loss Australia and Sands are both excellent support services - I particularly like the private group on fb that is run by Pregnancy Loss Australia. I'm so sorry you lost your baby but understand your feelings entirely (my baby was stillborn at 39+2 earlier this year). Lots of love and hugs xx
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08-10-2014 16:42 #9
Thanks harvs <3 it sucks (I'm so eloquent, hey?)
08-10-2014 16:46 #10
I'm so sorry. What an awful tragedy to go through. Maybe do as pp said. . See if you can get some counselling. I can't imagine. how terribly sad.
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