Honestly I'm not sure. I had a friend stay over with her bf (I had never met him) for a few days before I was pregnant. Not sure how I would feel now we have DD but I think it would depend on the friend and how long they had been with the partner. In your situation I don't think I would allow it simply as you said she isn't great at sussing people out and has a history of shady boyfriends.
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03-10-2014 20:47 #51
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03-10-2014 20:49 #53
Not too much of a long bow, in my opinion. I think it would be naive to think everyone that can pass a working with children check is an angel, it just means they have no prior convictions. Also, depending on the type of camp and age of the kids they can encounter all sorts of third parties that are outside of your control.
03-10-2014 20:51 #54
And based on what I read on here many of these so called predators wouldn't have a police record.
03-10-2014 20:59 #55
I will elaborate - you are right about the school thing.
Our house is safe - I always want my children to feel safe in the house and never have to worry about who is staying the night. That is why I would say to no a friend that I am not close with bringing a fairly new bf to stay the night in my home.
That said - do we then lick our children up? No, it is a calculated risk. That is where I was going with the camp thing. So I'm not saying I'm honing to lock my children up forever - but our house is their safe place.
I think that more with what I was thinking.
03-10-2014 20:59 #56
Ps kids not in school yet and I only went on 2 school camps and it was all teacher staff from my school.
03-10-2014 21:01 #57
Lock not lick OMG
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03-10-2014 21:11 #60
I trust nobody. Maybe my mum only. I also know of perpetrators that are relatives and close family friends who take advantage of being trusted by the parents. So knowing someone for a long time actually makes it worse in my opinion because they had more time to groom the parents and the child.
I honestly don't know how to answer this question. I would be going crazy over mixed feelings about the situation. Blaming myself for just expecting the worse of someone and at the same time worrying for my children's safety.
And for those who only worry about night time or bedroom or sleep, I know of a perpetrator who would do inappropriate things right in the middle of a dinner party in front of everyone and nobody noticed a thing. There are horrible people out there and they think there is nothing wrong with what they are doing.
Once you lose your innocence about this stuff there is no going back, I think. Hence the different opinions here. Clearly those who have never been in close contact with this reality seem to be shocked by those of us who don't trust others or expect the worse of people. I understand where they are coming from and sometimes I wish I knew less than what I know.
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