What would you do in the following situation? I am pretty sure I know what I will do, but I am interested to hear what other people would do.....
An old friend may be coming to stay overnight for a function. The friend was never a bestie, but we've met up occasionally and maintained contact over social media. A couple of months ago the friend hooked up with a guy who I have never met. I have a feeling she might expect that he will be staying with her at my place. I could be wrong, maybe I am right.
Now if you had kids would you let a man you don't know stay in your house? To further complicate the issue the friend has a known history of not being a good judge of character and/or setting her (dating) standards very high (has dated some people who have turned out to have shady pasts etc).
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03-10-2014 15:00 #1-
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What would you do: unknown house guest
03-10-2014 15:04 #2Senior Member
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If I had never met him then definitely not. Hopefully you are able to find out whether or not he will be coming too before they turn up
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03-10-2014 15:05 #3
Regardless if it was a man or woman, simple answer is no. I would not have someone I don't know staying in my house.
03-10-2014 15:11 #4
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03-10-2014 15:13 #5
Depends. If my DH was there I'd feel a bit better about it.
If you've told the friend she can stay, I'd just ask if the boyfriend will be with her. You'd think she would have mentioned if so though.
Just be smart about it, if he stays. Its like not he'll be alone with your children. I never change my baby's nappy in front of men, regardless of whether I know them or not.
I wouldn't allow them to bath in view of anyone, either... Just common sense stuff.
Trust your gut.
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03-10-2014 15:18 #6
No way! I would hope a friend would also ask first before inviting him to stay.
03-10-2014 15:21 #7
Absolutely not - whether its a man or woman, if i don't know them then they can't stay.
I had the awkward moment of having to explain this to a friend of ours who wanted to come stay with us for a few days and have his girlfriend stay as well, who we have never met. I just wasn't comfortable and explained it to him the best i could. Needless to say he was never the same with me after that - but he also has broken up with this girlfriend because she was a 'nut job' apparently. But he never went back to normal with me again ... probably because he knows this would go for any of his girlfriends i haven't yet met.
Oh well, he might see where I am coming from one day when he has his own kids.
This isn't a 'all is welcome' home anymore ... having kids changes that completely for us. Only people we know are welcome now.
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03-10-2014 15:25 #8
If she was a friend then i would have no problem - it's not like this "stranger" is coming into your home to babysit your kids? I don't get the problem - what would you be worried about exactly?
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03-10-2014 15:25 #9
I would be pretty unimpressed if she then invited him to stay too. I think if she intends for him to stay as well, she should have asked if they could both stay the night. If I hadn't met the guy before, I wouldn't let him stay over with small children around.
03-10-2014 15:26 #10Senior Member
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I would be inclined to say no, but I can't say I've never let a strange man sleep in my house with my kids in the house because I have....but the circumstances were very different to what you're describing (he was a stranger to me but not to my husband...if you know your friend well and trust her then yes I would him stay).
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