Thank you so much for the words of love and encouragement. Every little bit helps
Unfortunately there is no mother/baby unit here. There was actually an article posted in our local paper a few days away saying there not only isn't one but Its not on the cards either
I had one of my worst days yet today. I rang the perinatal team with ds2 and dd screaming in the background. She was lovely and it was nice to talk. She spoke to the Dr there and we have upped the Zoloft to 75mg. They were going to come and visit me but I didn't want that so they are calling me tomorrow. They are also doing a home visit on Monday. I've never felt so low, I almost can't even believe this is my life Its unrecognisable.
Anyway thank you so much for your replies, Its so nice to come in here and see beautiful words xo
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27-11-2014 19:22 #51
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27-11-2014 19:36 #52
You are doing a great job even if it feels like you aren't, its so awful to feel that low... depression and anxiety are so cruel.. im sorry you are struggling so much. Massive hugs xo
27-11-2014 22:01 #53
Do you have private health with psychiatric cover by any chance? and someone to care for your older children? Would it be out of the question or impossible to fly to Brisbane and spend 2 weeks in a mother/baby unit if things got bad enough? Just a thought.... I know the logistics would be pretty hard to work out but if it gets that bad then its got to be worth considering right?.. I had a quick google and your right, there isn't much up your way in the way of perinatal mental health facilities.. I can't believe there isn't even a mental health day program anywhere!?!
Don't forget to be kind and forgiving to yourself.
You are exactly what your children need and they are so very lucky to have you. Give yourself a break, You are human, and its okay for your children to see you struggle and not cope, in fact its healthy and realistic and will help them develop resilience instead of thinking they need to be perfect all the time. It won't harm them and in fact will help them develop empathy and kindness for others that will make you burst with pride one day.
Sometimes It's about just getting through the day however and in whatever way you can. Remembering that tomorrow is another day, a clean slate and a chance to try again. Forget about what happened today, don't get overwhelmed about the future... just live in the moment.
Im not going to lie.. It takes a f**king long time to recover (and even then Im not sure ill ever be the same as before) and when you are in the depths of it, it feels like it will never end but its just a moment in time and IT WILL PASS eventually... its just about hanging on until the sun comes out again.
Ive never seen you be anything but kind and supportive on this forum..Your a good egg purple lily... you deserve the same level of support and kindness. I hope you have people irl that do that for you.
Give yourself a Pat on the back for getting through a rough day and I sincerely hope tomorrow is better for you xxx
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27-11-2014 22:14 #54
Too scared to go on meds
I wish I could thank Ripper Rita 100 times over.
Purple lily you are in the thick of it and it's bloody hard. When I had DS DD2 was under 2 and it was clear she was an incredibly anxious child who clung to me like a life raft. She was a terrible sleeper and so was DS1. I was living some kind of hell. I felt like I was walking in mud every day. I hated everything about my life. I used to look at my kids and wonder what short straw they drew to get me for a mother. Yes I loved them, but sometimes that's not enough.
I was beyond overwhelmed. I drowned.
Fast forward 3 years and life is completely different. We have all come so far. I look at them now and think I didn't do so bad afterall. I have also learned to forgive myself for my dark days. Don't get me wrong we still have them but nowhere near as often. Maybe once a month instead of 5 times a week?
I know these are just words but we have lived through this and you will too.
I hope you can get some help somehow. It's such a hard slog some days.
28-11-2014 07:01 #55
Purple Lily, I've only just seen this thread and had a chance to read through. Firstly, can I say how courageous you are for putting yourself out there through your struggles for other hubbers to share in. I find it inspirational. I'm personally really struggling at the moment but Am having a hard time admitting it let alone sharing it. I think you are amazing and don't know how I would do what you are doing. 3 under 3 is a workload I can't even imagine. I'm struggling with one! I just wanted to say that I know you aren't feeling so good at the moment but I'm thinking of you and really hope you feel some relief soon. Your thread has really made me feel like it's ok to admit that things aren't so peachy and ok to seek help. I hope that I can find it within myself to make the same leap. Maybe one day.
29-11-2014 00:03 #56
Thinking of u @Purple Lily. I hope the increased dose of zoloft helps you more. Good to hear you're optimistic about counseling. . Fwiw I bet you are doing a better job with your lil ones than you think. Ripper Rita has given some wonderful words of advice too.
My dd had reflux so I understand where you're coming from. Gaviscon helped but she only improved on losec in the end.. is it possible to see another gp or paed for prescription, not fair for her to put up with pain or you to have to "just cope and wait it out"
Thinking of you xx
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I too am thinking of you purple lily. Hope you will have a good day today.
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01-12-2014 12:41 #58
Purple Lily I was thinking of you the other day as I haven't seen you for a while in our DIG. I wish I could come over and watch the kids for you while you take a break. You're doing such an amazing job caring for your children - such close age gaps are HARD work.
I hope the perinatal team helps. Thinking of you xx
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02-12-2014 17:00 #59
Hey Purple Lily how are things going
02-12-2014 20:22 #60
The organization who helps me get out of the house has a free Christmas lunch tomorrow so they will be taking me to that. Its stressing me out so badly but my kids need me to do this.
Oh and sorry it took me so long to come back to this thread, we had a full on weekend!
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