Isn't there something about if you want to make a relationship work after cheating that you can't continue to use the fact that they cheated against them, acknowledge and attempt to work through the issues but it can't be a pawn in every argument. Three years on that's what she seems to be doing, and putting it all over Facebook. How embarrassing.
+ Reply to Thread
Results 21 to 30 of 40
19-09-2014 00:39 #21
19-09-2014 02:07 #22
19-09-2014 03:16 #23
Sounds like she's looking for support and validation, regardless of how ridiculous it is to basically force her partner into staying together. It might be a case of her knowing deep down that this isn't the right thing to do, but desperately looking for justification so she can feel better about her actions.
Whatever she's telling herself (or others are telling her) it's not going to end well!
19-09-2014 04:45 #24
I feel sorry for her ...
Sent from my GT-I9505 using The Bub Hub mobile app
19-09-2014 05:15 #25
19-09-2014 05:35 #26
I believe you should work on a relationship before you just up and leave.
That's what he did. He went to counciling etc...
It didn't work. So he is leaving totally fair
19-09-2014 06:19 #27
She's been blindsided by this, I understand that and it's a knee jerk reaction because she doesn't want him calling the shots yet again. I don't know how to get through to her. Rick seems concerned for her and doesn't want to leave her in that state, leading me to believe there's definitely more to this.
I want to be there for her even though I completely disagree with her thinking. Rick told me me that he started packing up some stuff and wants to move it while she's at work and make it real.
I'm unsure about how to make Lisa see that she's just making a situation worse for herself. She's usually kind of rational. Maybe I should share this thread with her. Other people agreeing it's crazy might help. Thanks everyone.
"And I gave that guy directions. Even though I didn't know the way. Because that's just the kind of guy I am this week. "
19-09-2014 06:21 #28
I haven't read replies but Rick has every right. He consciously or sub consciously knew when he cheated the relationship was over. He should have spared them all the pain back then and not gone back but he did. To avoid further pain, cheating and wasting time Lisa should allow Rick to leave. IF it's meant to be they will end up back together after they've sorted the shot out
19-09-2014 07:27 #29
As wrong as I find Lisa's stance on this and the way she's airing her issues on social media, I do feel a bit sorry for her. It's sad that she is guilt tripping Rick to stay.
No one should be 'making' someone stay with them if they are truly unhappy. She is clutching at straws. You can't make someone love you.
Rick will leave, she's just delaying the inevitable.
19-09-2014 07:33 #30
I kind of feel sorry for both of them and neither of them at the same time. She has no right to force him to stay it's all very 'Fatal Attraction' but at the same time I think she feels that being dumped by the man she forgave for cheating is the ultimate insult. He's in a crappy position but he's also not guiltless in this whole situation either.
What a mess.
By NAT2561 in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & ChatReplies: 6Last Post: 17-06-2014, 19:48
By dancingchipmunk in forum Menstruation IssuesReplies: 7Last Post: 28-10-2013, 09:31
By lovebeingamumma81 in forum Single ParentsReplies: 45Last Post: 17-10-2013, 15:27
Baby Car Seats and Infant Car RestraintsBuying a baby car seat? Check out our 'go-to' links here!
LATESTToilet training: when is the best time to start?Why it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
Would you delay TTC because first child is starting first year of school.General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
Chickenpox after being immunised?Pro-Vaccination
Dr Antony Lighten - Appreciation threadpregnancy and babies through IVF
The Not So Serious Vent Thread #7General Chat
Egg Donation in South Africa #14Egg Donation
Same Sex Parents TTC #5Same Sex Parents