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    Id thought that. Like she's punishing him. But she doesn't get she's punishing herself because he's miserable, he doesn't want to be with her right now at all, he doesn't argue just mopes about. I suggested he goes and sees someone as he seems very depressed. She says they don't need help they will be fine he just needs to remember how great their life is?
    I can't imagine what it would be like forcing someone to stay and act like they love you. Damaging to both of them.


    "And I gave that guy directions. Even though I didn't know the way. Because that's just the kind of guy I am this week. "

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    Yes you are right op
    To get it to work after an infidelity both partners need to totally change the way they approach the relationship- that means meeting the needs of your partner- both partners need to do this.
    If they can't meet each other's needs then it's easy to decide they aren't right for each other and move on.
    Obviously she was not netting his needs before the affair and still is not.
    Poor lady would be smashed to bits emotionally and I can understand how hurt she feels, but unfortunately she has to let him go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonezart View Post
    Thanks, its good to see that if I'm wrong, so are all of you.

    Basically her stance is, and shes posted this all over her facebook:
    If you cheat on me and I forgive you, you are with me until I say its over! You chose to cheat, you don't get to make another choice and leave.

    I knew it was crazy but you know, sometimes you like to hear others say it. She's got friends agreeing with her - what is wrong with this world!

    Wow.

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    I think Lisa is being a douchecanoe. I mean, honestly. Rick cheated on her, that's really terrible and it should never have happened. But for her own reasons, Lisa decided to forgive him and they could give it another shot. Fair enough. But if Rick isn't happy, of course he's allowed to call it quits, Lisa doesn't own him, he can do whatever the hell he wants. But I would suggest that he'd be best seeking some legal advice before doing *anything* because it sounds as though Lisa could make things very difficult for both of them.

    I get that Lisa is probably still hurting, and she has every right to still be hurt, but if it's a one sided relationship, then it's a relationship with no real future and she's only doing them both a disservice by continuing the relationship.

    It just sounds toxic all around

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    Who would want to post that on fb for everyone to see.

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    Quote Originally Posted by knuckles View Post
    Who would want to post that on fb for everyone to see.
    Someone seeking validation for their choices. Lisa is being a bully.

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    Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George tries to break up with his girlfriend who won't let him. Absurd. No one has that right no matter what the situation.

    Honestly, they must both be pretty unhappy m

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    God I just lost it at douchecanoe!


    "And I gave that guy directions. Even though I didn't know the way. Because that's just the kind of guy I am this week. "

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    Am I the only one thinking how can you make somebody stay with you? If he really wanted to leave he could but he's choosing to stay.

    And discussing it on FB is just tacky.

    Eta: I'm not saying she's not being a cow, just that he's a grown man that is making a choice.
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    Lisa sounds like a crazy person.


 

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