I heard this terrifying anecdote from one of our school mums today. She has three children, DD (11), DS1 (8) and DS2 (6). They have a rule at their house with iPads and in-app purchases. Only DD knows the passcode, but if she wants to buy anything on iTunes she is to seek permission from mum or dad first.
So, last Thursday evening, DS1 goes up to DD during quiet iPad time, and asks for the code. He says he's checked it out with mum and she said ok. She gives him the code. 15 minutes later (after 15 minutes the password locks out), he returns with the same story. She gives him the password.
The next morning mum checks her emails, and finds a receipt from iTunes for....go on...have a guess how much....
$4600. DS1 has bought $4600 worth of in-app purchases on a game called The Avengers (I think?). In 30 minutes.
Understandably, questions were asked and consequences handed out. The punishment is all three children have been banned from iPads for a month. My feeling is that this is unfair, as, for a start, the littlest one had nothing to do with it, the girl was off her game because she was tired and believed her brother (but at 11 maybe could be expected to check these things more thoroughly?), and DS1 was sneaky and lied, and what he did was much worse than the other two.
What do you think? Was it fair? Unfair? Too lenient? Not lenient enough? What would you have done?
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24-08-2014 20:15 #1
Fair or Unfair?
24-08-2014 20:19 #2
First I would not trust my 11 year old with the code, second the middle child should be only being punished and third wft $4600 :0
24-08-2014 20:19 #3
I would have punished the child who lied, but not the other 2 children. Perhaps they parents shouldn't hand the password out if they don't want all their children being able to purchase apps. 11 y/o children should not be responsible for making sure their sibling isn't lying. Very unfair consequence IMO.
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24-08-2014 20:21 #4
I think only ds1 should have been banned.
I don't think it's dd1's fault, but only because I think the parents shouldn't have given her the password in the first place.
24-08-2014 20:29 #5
I'd say unfair.
I don't see how DS2 should be involved at all.
Definitely think there should be consequences for DS1.
DD... maybe a minor consequence, maybe just an explanation. Not sure.
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24-08-2014 20:30 #6
Only the kid who brought the stuff should be punished for it.
The youngest one wasn't even involved. Whilst yes they may be annoyed their DD gave him the code perhaps trusting an 11year old with the code is a bit ambitious.
The only repercussion id give the DD is not telling her the new code
24-08-2014 20:31 #7
yep - the girl giving the password isnt punishable for mine.
a friend of mine's child did a similar thing (got permission to buy 1 app for $3 and spent $1700)
Apple did refund the money (and he got to keep the apps) ... but they didnt help him much when he had no ipod for 6 months and the mother made him delete the game anyway
24-08-2014 20:33 #8Senior Member
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I'd change the password and not give it to the 11yo again as her punishment.
I wouldn't punish the youngest.
Although a few days of everyone not having iPad privileges mightn't hurt as a preventative reminder. The other two getting them back before him might also make the middle child think long and hard about his actions.
24-08-2014 20:35 #9
24-08-2014 20:37 #10
DS1 would cop the punishment. DD would be spoken to.
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