I agree that there should be a caution when one child is being rewarded for something the other does anyhow. My parents brought in an incentive to get my brother to stop wetting the bed that he'd get 5c for every dry night. Being the geek that I am, having had a dry bed since 2, I calculated how many nights that was x 5c and told my parents they owed me around $90.
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23-08-2014 10:44 #11
23-08-2014 10:56 #12
We use a tick cross system. Something I've copped flack for before. We give ticks for good behaviour, that they do without prompting and a cross for naughty or silly behaviour.
We have a ladder that has five rewards that I've picked. They are hidden. For every ten ticks they get a prize. However ten crosses removes a prize from the ladder. If they make it through the month with no prizes removed they get the jackpot. Jackpot is a big reward, something extra special. They love getting jackpot. Sometimes it's choose somewhere to go out and eat or free movie pass or something like a new dress.
Rewards get replaced if they get all five. It's a very complex system at first but the understand. We focus more on them doing the right thing without us saying but we also randomly give points if we say "brush your teeth" and they do it without an argument.
"And I gave that guy directions. Even though I didn't know the way. Because that's just the kind of guy I am this week. "
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23-08-2014 11:10 #13Senior Member
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I also think kids learn lots from natural consequences...eg. My middle child really wanted to grow her hair after having it in a short bob (her choice) for a few years. I told her she could, but she needs to be prepared to sit down and get her hair done each day, which also meant she needed to allow extra time for that in the morning. It took three more haircuts before she disciplined herself enough in the morning to grow her hair. It's now past her shoulders and every morning she will get everything ready for me to do her hair and ask me to come and do it. The first two times she had her haircut she told me she didn't like having to spend time in the morning getting her hair done so was happy for it to be cut. The third time she told me she really wanted to grow it and it was after that third time that she made the time. I could have adopted a sticker chart for something like this but it probably would have failed for a while as she just wasn't motivated enough, and then my oldest daughter, who does her own hair every morning without any issue, would probably end up peeved that she wasn't getting special praise for doing it...instead, she didn't care because doing her hair every morning meant she got to have it whatever length/style she wanted.
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23-08-2014 11:52 #14
I agree with and practice everything you have also mentioned Party of Three, and it sounds like Elija's mum already has a lot of positive reinforcement happening with her son as well. The sticker chart are really just a little extra to help keep DD mindful of things that she tends to get lax on or if there is a very specific negative behaviour that I want to replace with a positive behaviour.
I have 5.5 years between my two, so I'm yet to start a sticker chart with DS (only 14 months). I don't even know if it will be as effective on him, he already has such a different personality to her!
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23-08-2014 12:01 #15
I tried it with ds a few times. He refused saying it was 'stupid'. Though he's mostly happy to do what I ask.
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